Help setting the frame for BJ

[Mic_Roch]

Nice post man, if we stop to think about it, then its common sense.
All your doing is playing 'Game' but in a sexual context.
The whole routine, stack, arouse, push/pull/cat string, DHV, line em up and then... BJ Close.
Why didnt I think of it sooner, damn I need to get in field more, if were not thinkin in those aspects then were not doing our jobs right.

Thanks for that Jeronimo, excellent post.

[agold7964]

amazing!!!!!!!!! jeron! much appriated. was trying to get a bj just a couple hours ago, got a hj, but nothing more. will do just that! i also like the "rub around and near but never touch the vegina." VERY NICE!! thank you!

[sdnightfly]

There are a lot of girls 15-16 who do it, but they don't know how to do it right (speaking from a long time ago, otherwise I'd be talking to Chris Hansen right now).

I think in your case you're finding good girls with little to no experience, and think it's gross... they're worried about where "it" is going to go. Not in their mouth, not on them... what if you have something, etc.

Some girls won't even grab you over the pants...if they're willing to stick their hand in your pants, you're likely to get a bj from them. And the same with you going up her skirt and how far she's willing to let you touch her. There is no one tried and true way, any more than what she did to turn on one guy might not be what turns you on. You always have to have a clean slate and not go by what you did with your ex. You might wind up getting a bloody nose because you went for a spot that made her literally knee-jerk right in your face.

The point of a BJ is to please you, because they're happy with something about you. You might be way better looking, in better shape, know how to make them feel comfortable, etc.

Some girls stop doing it when the guy doesn't like how they did it, so they never do it again.

Inner thigh's a good place, but not the only place. You try to pick up on her spots during kino escalation and put them in the back of your head.

Sometimes the oral didn't happen until I had sex with her. Some wanted more emotional investment, others preferred it over sex. Always a case by case.

Originally Posted by The Fortunate

Hi guys.

I've noticed something about myself which I'm not sure how to fix. Whenever I'm dating a girl she rarely will ever give me a straight up BJ out of nowhere. I will usually just be a transition to sex and even then its kind of rare.

So, the question is, how do YOU set the frame for a BJ? What techniques do you use? Routines? Pebbles? Give me anything you've got.

-The Fortunate

[cldavid9]

Another thing to think about with this: After you have had sex with her a couple times and she is still not going down on you (and you are on her) you can just go for it. What I do is get her really aroused (as other people have written) and just go up close to her mouth while she is on her back. This takes some guts but usually works.

Alternatively, I just ask her to go down on me. Of course this is after we have hooked up a few times. This gets right at the issue. If she doesn't like doing it she will usually tell you and if she does, she will do it. Sometimes a girl will say: "I'm not very good at it." Now you just reassure her and she will usually do it.

I don't know if this was mentioned, but you need to reinforce her for doing it. Make noises and compliment her while she is doing it (even if it isn't that good you can give her tips later). Afterwards, say "That was amazing," and then get her off if you haven't already. The first few times don't give her any pointers or she will be self conscious. Lastly, this probably goes without saying, but you need to warn a girl when you are about to orgasm. Don't trick her and do it in her mouth or 'accidentally' on her face etc. Hope that wasn't too graphic

[agold7964]

the first did it was accedit for me. (it was her first time giving head too.) i can't cum when i masterbate, i just can't. i can't cum when other girls masterbate me (but i can pre-cum.)
so this girl and her friend where wacking me off, and one of the girls took me up to her room (this was like 8 months ago before i new about the "game")
she went down on me, and after about 45 seconds i squirted (i think it's cause i was hard for like an hr before hand from the hjs.)
all i remmeber was feeling different in my stomack, and then seeing her run to the bathroom covering her mouth. she brushed her teeth.

since learned that like u said, generally girls like a warning or when you take it out before cumming

[Cedar]

Originally Posted by The Fortunate

...how do YOU set the frame for a BJ? What techniques do you use? Routines? Pebbles? Give me anything you've got.

Cedar: *stare at girl, mid convo*
Girl: What?
Cedar: Sorry. I was picturing your mouth with my cock in it. It was sexy. *back to convo*

[cheez avenger]

I take the classic line from Bernie Mac off of "The Kings of Comedy".

"Put your mouth on me".


Works everytime.

[TheMaxPowers]

I usually just find a way of mentioning it earlier on in the date. Saying something like "Girls are worse at sex than guys. Most girls don't even know how to ga-giggitty a goo-bar". That usually leads to qualification and then I kick up the teasing kino and usually make out in the car while remaning in your seats. Kissing on the back of her neck puts her head down... Works for me at least lol.