fucked up bigtime?

[Topcat18]

First let me introduce myself very quick. So im Topcat, 18 years old, live in Amsterdam... thats it!

okej, lets get this going, i have a problem right now, a biggg one.
I have had a couple of dates with this girl, in the beginning she was very interested and stuff. on the 2nd date we've kissed, and the 3rd too.
basically what happend is that, i was on the phone with here, and out of the blues she said: i cant talk now i call you later, Goodbye ( the goodbye sounded irritated) later that night she text messaged me: "sorry i didnt call you,but i dont feel so good,i tried to tell you that im sick, but you were busy again doing other things, bye x " ( i was laughing when i was on the phone because someone felt off a bike, thats what she means with "you were busy again doing other things")

so..i called her,..she didnt pick up, next day i messaged here and said, call me when you can ( cuz she was in school) andd very AFC i know i know: i tried to call her again that night.
no succes

so....here it is..we havent talked for like 2weeks now, she hasnt called me, and i did not call her or anything.. but she can see me appear on msn messenger and stuff.

here's the thing? do i have to leave it like this? that would be a bummer because she was very interested and i was about to check a movie @ my place with her.

what now???

and owyeah, she sports @ the same gym as i do..,..so even if nobody calls, that chance that we see eachother again is big, and then what:S

join me with this guys,

Topcat

[__The_Raven__]

There's a serious lack of details here. You told us that you went on a few dates with her and that she "seemed interested." Based on the fact that you k-closed, I would say you were in comfort and you had a problem escalating after the kiss. Did you try to keep the sexual tension up after the kiss, or did you act AFC afterward and lose your frame? (very possible)

I would say this one can be fixed, but I wouldnt completely focus on her. I would go out and sarge meanwhile in order to prevent one-itis.

So here's your plan:

1) Go out. Sarge. Meet new women behind the scenes.

2) When you meet her at the gym (its bound to happen), treat her like an old friend and DO NOT mention how you guys havent spoken in a long time, or how she flaked on your calls. DO NOT DO IT! Just have a good time and be friendly and interesting like you were when you first met her and she was interested.

Even if you get rejected, who cares? You've been sarging behind the scenes! It's your safety net at the least.

Game on.

--Raven