Basically a re-iteration, but thought some would find this useful...This is just my notes on
the MM book (some own interpretation, but mainly reiteration)...
1. Seven Hours – Shows you’ll Stick around more.
2. “Implanted a Chip in My brain” – Convey’s your willingness to stay around.
a. Simple. Convey that she’s “hijacked my brain”, that “I can’t believe this. I just met you, but I feel so strongly connected with you!”
3. “We Should Stop” – When she says stop
a. When she says we should stop and A conveys that reluctance don’t object, AGREE! Change with change, flow, don’t resist, say, “Oh, I know, we shouldn’t be doing this. Yeah, and we shouldn’t do this…” (and lick her stomach or something and finger her saying “I really shouldn’t be doing this!”). Say “We SHOULD stop, but it feels so good and quality!” This is just token resistance not her actual feelings (the dna resistance) so it’s okay to exploit this.
4. Freeze Out – Acquiesce, “I understand.”
a. Whatever you do. Think “No biggy”.
Do NOT get exacerbated nor get mad do not get pouty. Be totally cool about it and say the magic words, “I understand” then totally de-activate; appear to have lost all horniness and sex drive. And then do (take time):
i. Chess
ii. Check the fridge
iii. Check email
iv. Watch TV – normal convo, etc.
b. This overcomes DNA LMR and “proves” you’ll stick around!
c. You basically act “gay” or like a eunich for about 5-15 minutes.
d. Same thing as in kino-escalation where she gets uncomfortable and you turn off and cool off. An S2 freeze out is total acquiescence. She says we should stop and gets uncomfortable, so you flip on the lights, say “Great, okay”, then go check your email! She’ll WANT it. She’ll want sex bad because it’s like she wants half a cookie (foreplay) and LOVES that, but doesn’t want the whole cookie (sex), and then you take away even the half cookie option, so she’ll get then almost certainly get back interested!
e. WARNING: She must not have a person to talk to during the freeze out, or else it won’t work. She has to be frozen out, isolated, so she then comes back to you. (The repeate A1-A2).
5. Riker’s 3 Rules
a. Always Use Condom
b. Win-Win (fun for us both).
c. Want to likely Repeat (Sexual Relationship)
After thoughts. I think the 5 anti-lmr tools should be in that order. 7 Rules, after all is the base. You can suggest the brain implact (mental hijacking thing) way before S phases, too. Then we should stop, and you can pepper in freeze outs wherever, finally, I think Riker's 3 rules should only be used last. I mean if you have to talk about condom, win-win, and seeing each other again, you almost sound like a freaked out parent, you know. I think that one should be avoided, unless you specifically think it will create necessary emotional reassurance. You obviously don't want to sound like a "warden" with three rules though!
Great stuff because the jargon isn't a complicator -- but actually simplifies things that frequently occur, placing them in a easily-communicated frame.