The Two kinds of LMR...

[Sinn]

I've always been fascinated as to why you sometimes get LMR and somethimes don't.

And while it seems like there are a lot of variables, if you look at everything very boiled down, you will be left only two real causes for LMR.

1. Lack of comfort in having sex with you. This means she still has ASD, she thinks you're a player, She doesn't see a hope for a relationship, she thinks you'll think she's a slut, She has to go to the gynocologist tomor, she is on her period, etc... Boiled down this means that she is still seeing logical reasons not to have sex with you, rather than looking forward to it.

There are a myriad of reasons why this could be, but mostly has to do with a lack of time spent building comfort. She has to know that she has the option to see you again if she wants to. She has needs to know you're not judging her etc....

2. Lack of arousal. This could be anything from you being a bad kisser, to the lights being on and her hating herself. If she is still able to logically object while you are making her moan, you have a lack of comfort. If she is just stopping you without seeming into it, it's lack of arousal.

The way to avoid LMR entirely is to take AS much time as is necessary building comfort to a pioint where she is fantasizing about you touching her, and then touching her in a way that makes her melt into physical pleasures.

S

[LoDit]

great info :thumbup:

[Roman_be]

Originally Posted by Sinn

I've always been fascinated as to why you sometimes get LMR and somethimes don't.

And while it seems like there are a lot of variables, if you look at everything very boiled down, you will be left only two real causes for LMR.

1. Lack of comfort in having sex with you. This means she still has ASD, she thinks you're a player, She doesn't see a hope for a relationship, she thinks you'll think she's a slut, She has to go to the gynocologist tomor, she is on her period, etc... Boiled down this means that she is still seeing logical reasons not to have sex with you, rather than looking forward to it.

There are a myriad of reasons why this could be, but mostly has to do with a lack of time spent building comfort. She has to know that she has the option to see you again if she wants to. She has needs to know you're not judging her etc....

2. Lack of arousal. This could be anything from you being a bad kisser, to the lights being on and her hating herself. If she is still able to logically object while you are making her moan, you have a lack of comfort. If she is just stopping you without seeming into it, it's lack of arousal.

The way to avoid LMR entirely is to take AS much time as is necessary building comfort to a pioint where she is fantasizing about you touching her, and then touching her in a way that makes her melt into physical pleasures.

S

Good post.

I notice something about the way you think (as per your blogs most recent writing) - contingencies. You plan ahead.


I have started adopting this in to my game, and it seriously bloody ups the results.

[018]

Great post, really reminds me of :

http://www.bristollair.com/outer-gam...ds-of-lmr.html

Here, ||||||| describes two types of LMR:
1. The girl has issues with sex - you need to compliment her and try to comfort her and make her realise its ok to fuck you. A freeze out isn't the proper solution.
2. The girl has issues with you - you need to amp up the attraction and arousal, this is also the type where freeze outs will help.


BTW Sinn, i'd like to have your opinion concerning how long after breaking up with a girl you should wait before turning her into a FB.