My new girlfriend works in same company as me: need possitive view points

[amazingmachine]

I will cut right to it. I met this new girl H9 at work and the attraction grew between us. After dating a few weeks she said she wanted to be my girlfriend (I agreed to the terms) and she blew off all the other men that were trying so hard. She tells me Iam so layback, non-needy, thinking in the direction Iam going, so preselected, confident, humorous, healthy, and gave me the space i need to think in what i wanted. She stated a few times I am the complete package. Sound great haaa. Well I noticed this is exactly what I wanted. At work we keep our personal life outside of work... and telling you this is hard cause shes total the hottest ass and complete pack I have dated.

I notice a few times she said we should be just friends but also she wants to be lovers. Plus she tease me on this...but then i feel she is serious at times. In return I just tease her in ways that if she sees me with other girls, if we were friends, she will get jealous. she already assumes we have plans with each other on the weekends as long as i agree with them. Well iam assume that women have many things that go through their heads and do what is best for them in principles and morals guide lines; with the guys they are in relationship with they usually throw shittests. well i just disarm them.

and so I, keep my mind strait with some of the few...
1) I tell myself to stop over analyzing the situation and live in the moment and future.
2) try not call her everyday
3) not to go to lunch with her every day. I have gotten it to once a weekday for a week.
4) keep with the same fundamentals i used to attracted her
5) stay busy with friends and activities


....Can you guys give idea, theory, stories... need more input to the topic and this relationship threads are helping.


cheers

[A L E X]

Don't get involved emotionally with her, as yoy say, just live the moment

[amazingmachine]

IF though it was very short comment ... it slapped me in the face ...i needed to wake up. The person with less feeling in the relationship leads it....right. Staying confident is the key...

[sdnightfly]

It came across as if she was telling you what you wanted to hear.

Would you consider her at the same level as you as far as the job goes? Who's more senior? How close do you work to her, and is there anything that could be considered a conflict?

Is it the type of workplace where no one really cares when employees date?

There has to be separation between what goes on at work and what goes on outside of work.

If it doesn't work out, are you going to be able to keep going to work knowing you'll still see her there, possibly dating another co-worker?

I don't get where you're the one agreeing to terms. It sounds like she chose you, which to me sounds like she might be the controlling type.

[Marty Leg]

I'm in the same boat buddy. Dated a few girls from work before but nothing too serious. Just started dating the hottest girl in the place and i am fucking loving it so don't wanna fuck this one up. Liking your points mainly the first one. And one thing i definately learned from the past is allow space. By doing so you'll give each other that space that you get with other girls that you don't work with. Plus it shows your not needy and in your control.

[amazingmachine]

Originally Posted by Marty Leg

I'm in the same boat buddy. Dated a few girls from work before but nothing too serious. Just started dating the hottest girl in the place and i am fucking loving it so don't wanna fuck this one up. Liking your points mainly the first one. And one thing i definately learned from the past is allow space. By doing so you'll give each other that space that you get with other girls that you don't work with. Plus it shows your not needy and in your control.

Marty Leg. on my story ...she end up degrading me for another man and said she was confused but still wants me. so I broke up with her and told her she has insecurity problems i noticed (from another relationship thread). The fact is that I did not need this shit to mess with my IG. so I told her we can be friends afterward. Now i notice i have the power still. I have noticed i healed quick , like a few days, cause i know there more fish in the sea for me.

So what i got out of her.....she still is calling me and telling me she misses me....maybe i get a couple of more fucks. all in the end i at least i fucked her and learned what i want more.

with work and all i see she looking at me. For my inner game i think about her a bit then i tell myself i can so do better. i don't really look at her no more. So my advice is to know what you want. you want her for your girlfriend ... there could be drama with work relationship ties or it could work. IF you want her just around so you can stick her....then my best advice is not to but any emotion into it. The one with less emotion in the relationship will be the leader relationship. But have fun fucking her....

[metalhead]

My LTR and i met when we worked for the same company.

Here's what made it ok in my opinion:

- we worked in different departments on different floors and hardly saw each other.
- A few months later she left the company to work for another company

Mostly it's that first bullet point that made it ok. If we saw each other every day during the normal course of work it would've been really weird if we broke up.