I hate my girlfriends bestfriend!

[TheStroke]

sdnightfly, are you serious dude? F-close the best friend? That would only make matters much worse and you would lose a girlfriend in the process GUARANTEED. Not to mention how thin your moral fiber would be for doing that shit.

[sdnightfly]

I said it was the "Ultimate" friend destroyer. He wanted to know how to destroy the friendship between best friends. There are better ways to handle annoying friends that I had mentioned.

I just think that the gf is in the middle of 2 people who want her attention and time. Neither want to share, or his gf is unable to have them both in the same room. I can only guess going by what he wrote.

Best friends can always be questionable. How much should you confide in one person. Information is power, as the saying goes. I am never comfortable when someone I'm dating has a best friend they confide in, because there's room for being manipulated, and a lot of things about you are told to that best friend. In a relationship, there should be some things kept from the best friend, but some gfs feel the need to say everything.

I busted someone texting her best friend on something personal, wanted to know what she thought, because she sent it to me by accident. I was more annoyed than mad,but it caused me to be careful in what I would say and share, knowing there was a "third party". There's a lot of stuff my ex-wife won't share with her fiance about me, and expect the same from anyone I'm involved with. I'm still a factor in her life, and I'm sure he knows some things, but I don't mind, because there's a lot she won't say to me about their relationship. She knows I can say some things she's never told him, and prob. never will.

Originally Posted by TheStroke

sdnightfly, are you serious dude? F-close the best friend? That would only make matters much worse and you would lose a girlfriend in the process GUARANTEED. Not to mention how thin your moral fiber would be for doing that shit.

[smilenbseen]

You need to learn to be more possessive than the friend... manipulative, all those great traits! Maybe tell her that her friend was hitting on you... I've had this happen with a few girls and have always won the battle although when you break up odds are this girl will really hate you for ruining her friendship (s) I personally don't like girls I date to have friends ha ha they are just cock blocks that last for a long long time... If it is hard for you to get your GF to do what you want, buy a dog and train that and then use those same things on your girl... you would be surprised how close they are! ha ha.

[Vapor]

Originally Posted by TheRogue

Dude, next time you hear the bitch yelling, just tell your gf to call you back when she's not around and hang up. She'll get the hint eventually.

This should be fine. In a neutral, not mean way, don't associate with the friend beyond the bare minimum of politeness. You better offer more value than the friend though.

[Hawk_r]

Here’s my two cents:

Your GF friends are going to shit test you for several reasons. One, are you really the guy your GF boast about? Two, after all, your GF friends want what’s best for her, they will prove you out. That’s what friends do. Your guy friends would do the same. Three, your GF is unsure about you and seeking her friends to help test your ass. Four, your GF’s friends are insecure and don’t like seeing her happy. In this case, why is she rolling with friends like that? Is she unsure of herself? Chances are if she that insecure about herself, she unsure of you, your relationships, her work, blah blah. Hence why we seek calibrated woman. We don’t have time for shit in our life. It’s your life man…like a job…YOU decide what you put up with and work towards. Drop it, fix it or enjoy it.

First recognize that your girlfriend has friends; both guys and girls long before you came into the picture. You need to respect that regardless of the situation, even if you disapprove of her friends. The girl/girlfriend relationship needs managing because trust me; they talk about shit that would make your ears bleed. Women have a reputation to uphold around men which disguises them from who they really are. There’s dozens of reality shows with regards to girlfriends, why? It doesn’t matter, the facts are until a girl get to the stage of telling you “everything” (even the weird shit)…she’s going to seek out her girlfriends to confide in. And until that time, her friends are going to shit test you until you win both your GF and her friends over.

Your challenge is to keep your congruency/frame in all situations. Remember the “leader of men” skill set. This also refers to leader of women. Lead your GF to confide in you, not her GFs. At least try to understand her better than her girlfriends do (which is damn near impossible, but worth the effort). Bottom line, girlfriends like guys want the best for their friends. If you’re the best…her friends will approve. This can be determined by how she acts and speaks to her friends about you. Be rest assured 9 times out of 10 if her friends don’t like you and act weird when you’re around it’s because your GF was dissing you earlier.

Jealousy is a SOB! But you can manage this. If it’s truly jealousy that’s driving your GF’s friends to act poorly, simply build comfort as mentioned in the prior post. Game them into your frame. You’re the shit, right? Own the situation. Take your GF’s friend out on the town. Show them you’re the man and the best stud for their friend. You’re GF and friends will see you’re putting forth the effort and proving yourself out. In addition, trust your girlfriend to make good decisions about her friends. She knows who’s the shitty ones, jealous ones, bad ones, good ones…etc. If she can’t tell the difference…do you really want a woman like this in your life?

For example my GF has a crack whore girlfriend (I will refer to her as JB – jealous bitch) who was extremely jealous of our relationship. JB is bf with my GF, they grew up together. They partied together. They’ve even made out…yes in front of me back in the day (posture shit test maneuver). JB made multiple attempts to break up our relationship because she felt she was losing her bf…and JB wasn’t going to have it. It’s not that JB disapproved of me…she just wanted her party friend back…she wanted someone to be miserable with…someone she could lean on and leech off of. I never accepted JB’s behavior and ignored all of her petty insults and attempts to take me out of my frame. My GF knows how I feel about her bf JB and I’ve only mentioned it briefly twice in six months. Point here, I started including JB in some of our activities. I text her to grab drinks with us…shop with us…etc. Over the course of a few weeks JB saw for herself I was amazing and the best man for her bf. JB saw her friend growing up and happier than ever; deep down that’s what she wants for her bf. Now, JB text me and wants me advise her on work and men she’s dating. While this is going on my GF is love’n me even more. Inner circle game is vital. Study this…implement and watch your GF friends love you. Note here: never get too close to your GF’s friends. Keep them at arms distance. After all they are observers, not participants. It’s your relationship…not theirs. Bring those around you up to your level. Don’t put up with crap.

Hope this helps.

[Autoace]

Two things....

1. This is another reason that I do not have GF's.

2. I truely believe that people are like their friends.

Do you not share the same interests, and personality traits with the majority of your male friends???

I know you may not like to hear it, but your girl is probably like her friends. There is no point stressing about not liking her friend. She will always be there. Period.