Serious innergame question concerning a relationship

[Flowmo]

A friend of mine called me today to talk about something. The thing is he had a girlfriend for 3 years and he loves her, but he broke up a couple of times because they where both too jealous. First he tried to be friends with her, but every time he tried to be friends he landed in bed together again and he started something again. He says it's because he always wants to flirt. 'I've never been able to be with a girl and not flirt with her, I just need that attention, always. I've never had a friend without having sex with her.'
After 4 times of breaking up he told her he didn't want contact with her for a long time, because this way it wasn't working. Today he got a text message from her after 4 months not speaking to her (she reminded him of something fun they both shared together one time and she obviously wants contact with him again). He told me he's really feeling upside down about her seeking contact again, he doesn't know what to do. He still has strong feelings for her. He told me that everytime he talks to another girl he compares everything about that girl with his ex-girlfriend. He's afraid that if he gets in contact with her again he will end up in a relationship again, that might be what he wants, but he's afraid it will end up in a fight again because they're both so jealous. And on the other hand he's even afraid that if he goes back to her he'll stick with her and even marry her. He's only 19 years old!

I made up a few things about him that I think he needs to fix before he tries anything with her again.

* Afraid for the future (what if we break up again/how will this end?)
* Jealousy
* Comparing every girl with his ex
* Not able to have a just friends relationship with a girl (he always wants to flirt with every girl)

What I want to ask you guys is...
-you know any ways to fix the above mentioned problems?
-Or do you maybe think it's other things that are the problem?
- When and if, what does he text her back?

Thanks for the advice.

[Eyecontact]

My feeling is your friend is not ready (in terms of age, life experience and the number of girlfriends he has had) for an exclusive relationship such as this.

You have said that he is not able set boundaries such as just being friends, so the only alternative would be to stay away from her completely... it is actually the kindest thing to do.

If he has broken up with her several times before obviously something is not working, despite the feelings they have for each other. There is no point in just repeating the past.

In a year or two or three... who knows?

She may be the love of his life, but he will never know for sure until he has been with a lot more women.

[Flowmo]

Thanks mate.
Anything he can do about his jealousy problem?

[Phateless]

He's insecure. What is he insecure about? Talk to a shrink.