Is there any way to salvage this situation?

[pinky]

I called my girlfriend of 6 months out for disrespecting me yesterday and she blew up on me today on MSN. She was disrespectful after I took her to see a movie, then she wanted to go out somewhere for lunch, but I said not today. Any way to salvage this situation? (arranged from oldest to newest)

Her:
cuz u dont care me rite wat u said u keep saying gf should be nice to bf
Her:
wat did u do to me?
Her:
keep forcing me to lick ur damn dick
Her:
ass hole i hate to do those stuff go ask ur white bitch to fuk u plz
Her:
so retired we should be friend not bf gf u not good enough to be my bf and u dont need to hav me b ur gf find some1 else that can stay wit u 10$ per day and keep u fuk 7 days a week O K!!!
Her:
u cant change for sure im done
Her:
thx for everything that we hav done together except the mak love part
Her:
b4 u was the one said u do everything for ppl and never ask them to do for u back but it din seem like the way u said u keep gain and gain ur requite i think im better than those grl wat u hav thought u should learn more about how to treat ur grl to be wit u in a long time
Her:
and dong say the stupid thing like ( wat hav u being nice to me only guy should be nice to grl only) that moron!!!
Her:
if u a man u shouldnt hav ask her that question if u think u r the best u should treat her nice
Her:
u will get wat u observed
Her:
do nice things get a nice thing
Her:
don be such a pussy
Her:
i hav learn about u alot
Her:
and i think i hav seen the better one b4 i met u
Her:
i din mean that im the perfect gf
Her:
but most of grl want her bf to treat them like a princese not only me if u argue wit me about that go ask ur friends o find the random couple and ask the grl and guy that how can they belong together so long and never fight about rite wat we r doin
Her:
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[CaptainCanada]

Wow man. That was fucking painful to read. I feel like I'm deciphering the fucking enigma code...

Ok, so far all I'm catching there is a ton of disrespect. You don't need to be treated like that. I understand that she's mad, but she can't just start spouting off personal attacks and expect you to welcome her back with open arms.

Get a new girl, preferably one who speaks english.
Ok, but seriously start seeing other women, and if she gets jealous and wants you back she's going to have to work for it.

[pinky]

Yes there is a ton of disrespect.

All I did yesterday was take her to see a movie. After the movie she wanted to go out for lunch, but I said not today so she cooked something at her house. She said in a kind of disrespectful tone that she always has to cook for me. It seems like she doesn't appreciate when I take her out and spend money on her. She always asks for more. Then I said she didn't really have to cook for me, but she came back saying I don't appreciate her cooking. Almost seems like she is only looking to marry someone who has a lot of money and will take care of her a lot, while disguising it as love.

I waited until today to tell her that she was disrespectful and should apologize, but she blew up on me.

[pinky]

The money thing is cultural though. She was born in Thailand and has moved here only 4 years ago. In Thailand most guys treat their girlfriend like a princess. It is expected for the guy to take care of the girl, her family, and pay a dowry to marry the girl. Most Thai girls are virgins and want to marry a guy who will take care of them the most, which is probably those who have the most money. I have been trying to adapt to her culture but I don't know if I will be happy doing it. She is very attractive in my eyes, has a nice personality, but only a few flaws which I don't know can be dealt with.

My emotions have probably blurred my logical point of view and I have probably constantly excuse, overlook, or pretend to forget her infidelities, lies, hostilities, etc, so outside advice is probably best. Is this even worth salvaging this relationship?

[jiggatycoon]

Not even close to worth salvaging. She cheats, lies, makes your life miserable, and is generally just not that high value. (I can tell she isn't that bright).

That's my outside perspective. Dude you don't want to impregnate a girl like this and have her forever in your life in one way or another.

[pinky]

ok. i said i would break up with her and now she wants me back and is apologizing so much. she is saying she can also change her way with money. what do you guys think? take her back or not?

[sampanye]

No, it is nowhere near worth salvaging.

I don't even know where to start explaining this! You can do so, so much better. There ARE decent girls out there who don't judge you by how much cash you spend on them and will treat you with respect. To be honest, she sounds a bit nuts.

[Iceman JJP]

I agree no.

It's in her roots to be that way.

Don't waste your time, money, and energy on her anymore.

Might hurt now, but best for the long run.

[the_sLiDe]

If my gf would tell me even ONE of those... 25 lines of msn haha... i would be royally pissed... not that my gf even thinks like that haha . But seriously man what are you doing?!?!?! She has absolutely no respect for ya, and unless you are a total jerk (which it seriously seems you are NOT) then find another girl... you will be so much happier.

[sdnightfly]

She's going by her social values and family values and what she was brought up around. You also have to base it on her male role models like her father.

It could've been PMS, too... maybe she gets it really bad and got really grouchy on you.

My ex-wife said my personality was exactly like her dad's. The guy she's marrying is exactly like her brother as far as personalities go... so there is truth to what I'm saying.

I don't know if Thai women get treated all that great or are treated as equals though, I thought the women came across as submissive in relationships.

I think if it's too much work for you to be a little bit on the sexist side with someone like this (the men are the providers, the women are for popping babies out and cooking) then end it. It's definitely cultural, and there's still plenty of relationships like that.

I don't know what you meant by infidelities...if she cheated on you, but if that's the case, there's not much use for her except an occasional FB.

Finally - You don't salvage girlfriends. You break up, move on. Maybe later revisit it, or not, but there's no real committment when it comes down to it. But you salvage marriages when kids are involved. You're allowed to overlook the flaws a lot more than you do with a girlfriend that you can feel free to leave at any time as long as you haven't put her name on a contract (rent, car, etc).