Input please.....

[Snuffles]

To be quick:

I was in an LTR which turned sour (verbal arguments HB hooking up with other guy - after me telling her shes not worth the trouble)

I told her that I was going to take a month away from her to decide whether or not I still wanted to be around her (we had a very close relationship for a few years)

I had texted her a few times afyer the month just to see how she was doing and she seemed to be more talkative than she had ever been, I told her I was moving out of state, and she seemed put off by it and wanted to know when I was leaving.

I had to move back breifly and had texted her to see if shed go on a breif trip with me while I was back, she wanted to know how long I'd be back and then later started saying I had ditched her completely and was getting very emotionally upset.

She's the type that stays emotionally distant and cool, acting like she doesnt need anyone.

She knows were going to stay friends and as far as I know shes in a LTR.

Any thoughts on why shed be acting this way?

[jscore]

From my experience:

Rule #1: Never try to "figure out" a woman
Like rationalizing her bizarre behavior.


Also, she cheated on you while in the LTR?

Doesn't look very promising.

[Snuffles]

She didnt cheat on me, what happened is we got in an argument (stress had been running extremely high on both ends) and I broke up with her, apoligized said Id call her immediaytly tommorow to work things out, things came up and didnt call her for 3 days so she hooked up with someone else.

When I explained the situation she said that she was with the person and couldnt leave him but would let me do what I could to get her back, I basically was kissing her when her BF was headed over and what not. So I told her I'll that I wasnt going to play that game and left her.

[jscore]

You did the right thing by leaving her.
Ask yourself, "Is this the kind woman you want in your life?" remove emotions.

[Snuffles]

I'm just trying to get input on her behavior, more along the line of why all of a sudden the IOI'S and framebreaking (going from calm and nonneedy to emotional).

[jscore]

Who knows why women are so emotional. Just remain strong.

[Vapor]

Originally Posted by jscore

Who knows why women are so emotional.

Guys who understand women do

OP, you called after a month, she was happy and believed you were going to work things out. Then you said you were moving away, which wasn't what she had in mind. So she's distant. No mystery.

[sampanye]

You called her. She'd missed you and thought you two were going to work things out. She was momentarily excited and happy. You'd left the window open for reconciliation and she thought this was why you were calling.

You said you were moving away. You'd brought all the old, good emotions to the surface then crushed them.

You then invited her to go on a trip, so she assumed you wanted to have your cake and eat it too. (Come on, a trip before you leave the city for good? We all know that's a booty call.) This wasn't what she was looking for so she became upset. Now she's being distant because it's less draining than having screaming arguments with you.

Why does that seem so simple to me but you guys seem to find it so confusing?

[Snuffles]

Thanks Vapor and Sampayne, thats the answer I was expecting to see.
I wanted to confirm my own suspicions.

Yet you did make me aware of something..... I dont exactly know how to get her out of being distant and feeling crushed.

I would perhaps like to see how much of the LTR I could get back, if not oh well.

But how does one do that when they are leaving the city? (No, "its not worth it" posts please)

I'm aware that if I could get her back to where we were she would move with me, but I only have a a few months to do so.

The only thing I can come up with is little ways to make her "win" me over while building trust and comfort back. But what of the move?

Any thoughts?