Fear your gf might get picked up?

[jscore]

So I've been reading this pickup reports, street game, etc. Am I the only one who thinks that his gf might get picked up on the street by a good PUA?

Sounds crazy, I know, anyone in the same boat?

[Vapor]

Unbelievably unlikely. There aren't that many guys out there.

[HumorUS]

I've been looking at that too, mostly because i number close and day 2 these girls before the boyfriend EVER comes up.. but like vapor said, there arent that many guys out there that are bad asses.. Just hope shes not in my area and catches my attention

[Dropit]

If you're actually adding value to her life, then you don't need to worry.

If you're not and she gets picked up, you should be happy because she found someone who will make her feel better than you did.

If you don't feel happy for her, you should work on being less selfish about it. There might also be some inner game issues with confidence in your ability to stand alone.

But don't worry about it. You're awesome, remember?

[jscore]

I've been thinking about this in terms of the broader provider/lover theory. Maybe if their boyfriends were a bit more alpha, they would less likely to cheat, but who knows.

[krytek]

Why worry? remember abundance theory. if she cheats she's gone in a sec and the sec after that there will be some other girl to replace her, so basically its her lose.

[Sarge in Charge]

If your relationship aint that solid, it might not even take a PUA to pick her up.

Rather than worrying what someone else would have to do or be to get her to leave, focus on being the guy and living the life that makes her want to stay.

[ur2nice2me]

You drift into a oneits and jealousy land.

Not sure if this theory is known in the English forums.
It is part of the LTR fundamentals in Germany and pretty powerful.

01. You don't own her
02. Something you don't own, you can't loose
03. Jealousy is the fear of loosing her
04. The fear of loosing her is a sign that you feel there may be someone better for her than you
05. Showing her signs of jealousy, signal her that you know there may be someone better for her than you... And then she will start looking who that may be.

A vicious circle.

But to be fair... Yes, I know that fear that some PUA hits the attraction triggers of my LTR so hard, he get's an instant lay.

But then still you have to accept statement number: 01. You don't own her.
It his her free choice. It is not of your business what she does if she treats you well and she does not break a rule you set up for the relationship.

On the other hand....
If your relationship is healthy, she will clearly see what she has in you and brush off the PUA or knows even better after the infidelity what she has in you.

As a preventive action I use Mysterys(?) AMOG routine from time to time.
I push her towards some AFC that is trying to start conversation with me/her/us.
"Get that chick off me for a minute... Shes sticks like glue to me that evening..."

Hope that helps....

[The Therapist]

If it happens shake the guy's hand for taking a girl off of your hands that obviously wasn't that in to you regardless of what she has said or told you.

She wouldn't be the first girl to manipulate a guy's feeling for some comfort, meals, good times, and sex while she was waiting for the next thing to come along.

Girl's aren't these sweet angelic beings that we fool.

[jscore]

@ur2nice2me: thanks, your post makes a lot of sense.


The thing is in all my previous relationships, and with hotter women than this one, I have never even gave it a thought and the relationships have all went very well.

What changed my mind were these factors:

1) I see how her buying temp changes when she flirts/talks to other guys. I'm very sure 99% of it is harmless, but it's like I see "what might happen" when I'm not around, and/or if a guy knows what he's doing. It's like I see it going through steps cuz I've been reading how attraction is triggered, etc.

Maybe I just didn't pay this attention to my previous LTRs!


2) When I went on a week vacation away from her, I learned that her and another friend met up with two other guys (all friends of mine). One of the guy is a semi-player (who goes out alot) and I was afraid he might trigger some attraction in her. I couldn't sleep for two nights! I learned nothing happened and she mentioned how both guys were boring.


3) I'm not working and neither is she so we're spending a lot of time together. I've been cutting it back more and more though, and she's beginning to miss me more.
I'm feeling a bit betaized (it has to happen), and there's a fear she might be attracted to someone new and exciting and who can hit all attraction switches.


4) I've introduced her to some of my friends who are not PUAs but do go out with the intention of pump and dump (mostly no game though), so I have fear that even if I break up with her first there's a chance she might be seduced by someone from there. Although I do trust my friends this won't happen, it's possible.


5) She's pretty emotional/unstable which forces me to keep a closer eye on her.


6) We're going on a 2 week vacation followed by a 3 week vacation somewhere else. We're going to be seeing each other EVERY DAY! I'm really afraid this might kill any mystery or attraction, etc. (We only met each other 2 months ago)


6) We've been having INTENSE CRAZY MULTI-ORGASMIC sex (3-4 times a day), and her "inner slut" is beginning to come out more and more. She tells me that she thinks about sex a lot more than she used to (she always stresses she only wants with me) but I'm afraid I've unleashed an inner demon and that it might be transferable to her wanting sex with other guys.



On the good side:

1) I'm much higher value than her.
2) She wants exclusivity w/me.
3) Constantly shit-tests me about being a player with "many options" and other girls.


So there's no "logical" problems in the relationships at all to speak of, but my ego/paranoid side is driving me crazy.

Look I'm not one of those wimpy beta guys, I consider myself more alpha.

My real deep fear is that I'm beginning to treat her a lot nicer than I usually would (it's becoming an LTR afterall) BUT she might be attracted to someone who wants to pump and dump her. ESPECIALLY in my own social circle. I would really be devastated if that happens.

I have considered ending it but it's like my ego won't let me to do it for fear that she might be on rebound and sleep with some of my other friends quickly.


Thoughts?