Slipping into AFC Territory - Inner Game Advice on Ending a LTR

[Snooke3]

I can feel that my alpha frame and inner game is slipping into AFC territory.

My 4-month LTR (the longest I’ve had and with the best GF I’ve had) is about to end. She’s studying abroad next semester for 4 months and when she gets back in December, I’m teaching abroad for about a year. An LDR would be almost pointless since the nearest end in sight is at best, 2 years from now, so we’re going to break it off.

I feel very AFC, especially my inner game, because I’m so close and attached to this girl. She’s leaving in a week and I’m sad as hell, basically heartbroken. My mind is running circles around me, I feel so one-itis for her, which sucks.

Most advice concerning breakups is for bad breakups or post-breakups. Does anyone have advice on inner game and breaking up / ending a great LTR? I mean should I be slowly detaching to make the actual break less harsh? That sounds pretty rash and unnecessary, but I’m not sure how to make this breakup any easier on me. The flipside would be, should I be doing extra things with her, trying to make the absolute most of this last week, so we’ll leave on great terms?

And I could GFTOW, which would help and will eventually help after she‘s gone, but it’s not going to help right now.

Thanks for any advice.

[BigDuke6]

Just enjoy the moment. Love is a day-by-day event. You had a successful relationship. That means you'll be able to have more of them in the future. You're 22. You have many, many years of loving times with lots of women ahead(if you wish). I know the feeling of "she's special, she's the one", but that is an illusion - a self deception.

Be a good ender. That's as important of a skill as being good at opening.

Think forward to the multitude of exotic chicks you'll encounter as you teach overseas.

[jesseelite]

Get in set, homie. Nothing helps a wounded heart like some new pieces. Good luck.