She doesnt want a relationship at this moment - The Attraction Forums

Prosp3ct · #1 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 05:11 PM

I have been on a few dates with this HB9. Well I know she likes me (shitloads of IOI's) and she knows that I like her because of all the qualification material I did with her. I kissed her already and did the major kino escalation.

Now, the last 2 BF they cheated on her and now she is emotinaly fucked up. She told me that she doesnt want a relationship at this moment.

But the funny thing is that she is always touching me and smiling and giving me tons and tons of IOI's and at the same time she's telling me that she doesnt want a relationship and does the negative body language when I try to do anything in relationship direction. It's so fucking confusing.

What should I do? Do I dump her? I mean I like her a lot but I dont want to wait like 6 months for her to change her mind.

jiggatycoon · #2 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 06:38 PM

I don't think she's confused, just you. Yea, she likes you, but she doesn't want anything serious. Don't fall for her. Don't get attached. Just have fun. If you can't handle that, definitely walk, man. But the bottom line is that you're in the position of weakness. DO NOT give her an ultimatum like "either we have a conventional relationship that you're not ready for and I require because of my insecurity or I walk."

If she's an HB9, what do you think she will say?

Honestly, from your post I'm not so sure this isn't just oneitis anyway. Have you f-closed even? If not, you're in the wrong forum.

Prosp3ct · #3 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 03:25 AM

Tnx for answer,you have cleared a lot of things up. It's not my oneitis I was just curious what to do in a situation like this.

No I didnt f-close because her insecurites with trusting a guy,but tnx now I see this in a whole different light.

Rusty7 · #4 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 07:44 AM

Hey man..

I just had a similar situation with this broad. HB8. Tons of IOIs, F-closed her, great time together, etc etc.. She's just been fucked over by previous guys and doesn't want to be in a relationship.

You are developing one-itis, keep your distance! I almost went into a dark hole but escaped last minute.

She could very well be confused, and you dont want to waste your time with mentally confused girls.

Diddy1 · #5 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 02:53 PM

i fell in the black hole and formed oneities with a girl after dating her without a title for 3 months... we had the convo about where we stand and now we barely talk and its effing killing me

Rusty7 · #6 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 03:09 PM

Girls who do not talk, or just ignore you when they KNOW its the time to talk shit out are usually just afraid of being involved too much (possible commitment issues) and always have confused shit going on in their head.

Do not, i repeat do not go into this trap. You are stronger than this. We are stronger than this. We are PUAs, players, or whatever! Don't get fucked over by a girl like this. Be strong, and dont fall into the trap.

Prosp3ct · #7 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 04:09 PM

Tnx for answers. I see it clearly now.
But basicaly what I would like to know is that if you can change her mind from not wanting a relationship at this moment to wanting it now? Are there any routines or gambits?
I'm not needy or clingy over this girl I'm just curious,because something like this has never happened to me before.

_Ghost_ · #8 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 04:43 PM

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Tnx for answers. I see it clearly now.
But basicaly what I would like to know is that if you can change her mind from not wanting a relationship at this moment to wanting it now? Are there any routines or gambits?
I'm not needy or clingy over this girl I'm just curious,because something like this has never happened to me before.

There is no routine to make a girl sort out her commitment issues, she has to work through that herself. It sucks, I know, but that's the way it is. The best thing you can do right now is see other women, have fun, enjoy your life. Keep the frame that you are the prize and when she realizes that she's letting a great guy get away, she will initiate the relationship talk. Until then, enjoy yourself. There are plenty of women out there who would enjoy your company.

Sarge in Charge · #9 (**permalink**) 08-12-2008, 03:06 AM

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She told me that she doesnt want a relationship at this moment.

Why do YOU want a relationship at this point? You've only been on a few dates...

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she knows that I like her because of all the qualification material I did with her.

Using qualifying "routines" during a sarge to flip her attraction switch and get passed her bitch shield is different to qualifying her as a GF.

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The best thing you can do right now is see other women, have fun, enjoy your life. Keep the frame that you are the prize and when she realizes that she's letting a great guy get away, she will initiate the relationship talk. Until then, enjoy yourself. There are plenty of women out there who would enjoy your company.

Exactly. Get out of selling mode and be a buyer!