I think the reason most guys get anxious about getting into relationship is that relationship finalizes and reassures her attraction for him.
This kind of "needy" behaviour comes from self doubt. Un-experienced guys typically have no idea where they stand with a girl. They are not leading relationship, instead they either let decide or let things up to luck.
Compare two different thinking processes that end up in monogamous relationship:
1. "Ok, so I like her now, she's really sweet...and I am pretty sure she likes me. I want to be monogamous with her, I think I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend. I hope she says yes, because if she says NO I would be devastated" TRANSLATES INTO: I am absolutely clueless what I want, but this girl likes me, and by social strict standard we should immediatelly start relationship. I feel like I am stuck in Limbo and I constantly need reassurance that she likes me. I also need to make sure she doesn't sleep with other guys, so I will ask her to be in relationship with me, hopefully, she says yes.
2. "I've dated her a long time, I starting to like her. She asked me questions about relationship already, so I know she wants to be with me. But if I am going to go monogamous with her, that means I cannot fuck Ashley anymore, and married Jane every other weekend. I think I am ready to make that sacrifice. I am going to give this monogamous relationship a go, and see how she holds up to her and my morals. I know that if THIS DOES NOT WORK OUT, I can always find another women to be with, and I still have choices" = TRANSLATES INTO: I am very secure about this. The ball is in my court. She's been waiting for this talking LONG TIME, now that she invested reasonable amount of energy into us, she is less likely to fuck this over.
You see the difference in thinking processes? Complete cluelesness of what is going on is a sign of bad relationship to start. An alpha man knows exactly what he wants at any given time. His mind is not clouded with emotional thinking, such as "does she likes me?", his identity is not founded on whether she rejects him or not.
I HAVE NEVER asked a single girl to be my girlfriend. In my pre-community days, I was always afraid, my post community days, I made calls to how relationship was going to be. If she didn't like it, I was willing to walk. Girl I am seeing right now, I had a talk with her and told her "I am not ready to see you exclusively. Take me or leave me!" She said "ok. I am not ready yet" (she lied, she wants me all to her self). Another girl I told her same thing, she said "NO! Either we date or we don't hookup" I said, "OK". .... guess what, I am still fucking her, and I haven't lied to her a bid. She just realized that if she gives me ultimatum she misses some good fucking. Poor girl.
Don't ask her. Make calls. Tell her: "Listen, Ashely/Niceole/whatever, we've been together for while, and I like you and I know you like me a lot. I think it's time we become exclusive. I want that. "
10 out of 10 she will say "YES!!!! YES!!! OMG!!! YESS I AM SO WET RIGHT NOW, lets fuck. I'll even let you put it in my ass without lube!"
Trust me, it's that exciting for girls. (To put it in their asses that is)
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