fuck buddy advice

[spade_of_aces]

be forewarned: long post ahead

last january I met this girl who became my first true FB. We met at a party, had a day2 kclose, fclosed her in mid feb, and we've been FBs ever since. Before we even had sex, I made it clear I was not looking for a committed relationship, that I would be seeing other girls, and that she needed to do the same. I've been checking up every few months just to make sure we're still on those terms, and she said she was hooking up with other guys when I last asked in june.

However lately, I've started to notice she seems to be getting pretty attached. Two girl friends of mine from completely different social circles said in the past 2 days they noticed her seeming more attached and clingy, which is what got me really worried.

See, I like the girl. She's a HB9, down to earth, drama free, and just fun to be around. The sort of girl I got into the game to find. If I was in the stage of my life where I wanted a committed relationship, I'd do it with her in a heartbeat. But I'm years from that point in my life. To complicate matters, she had an ex (open relationship) who she dated off and on for 2 years, all the while he hooked up with other girls and she waited for him to "come to his senses" and date her exclusively. Long story short, it messed with her emotions, and I dont want to put her through that again.

She still says she just wants some fun, non-committal hook ups, but I'm starting to get the feeling she's just sayin that cause she knows I'll break it off if she gets too attached.

I think I need to just sit down with her, explain what I'm thinking and make sure we're perfectly honest about what we're in this for and where its going. I just wanted to see if anyone had a similar experience, and what happened/ what you did to deal with the situation. Any advice is appreciated here, as this is new territory for me.

To those of you who read this far, thanks in advance.

-spades

[Sarge in Charge]

To complicate matters, she had an ex (open relationship) who she dated off and on for 2 years, all the while he hooked up with other girls and she waited for him to "come to his senses" and date her exclusively.

Many women agree to be FBs because they see it as a foot in the door. They think they can change things or that with time, things will change on their own. Despite what they repeatedly say, they want to be more.

I think I need to just sit down with her, explain what I'm thinking and make sure we're perfectly honest about what we're in this for and where its going.

Haven't you had this talk already? Having it again is unlikely to produce different results.

Long story short, it messed with her emotions, and I dont want to put her through that again.

IF that it true, then cut it off with her.