Shady Can't Stop Posting About His Oneitis

[shady223]

My previous posts tell my story...dated a girl for 4 months w/no "gf/bf" label. She broke it off about 2 weeks ago. She wanted to remain friends.

I asked her to accompany me to my friends bday bash on saturday night-vip @ 2 clubs, limo, then back to his place. probably 7 of us in total. at first she was playing it like she was too busy and had to work.

i said "no big deal." her response-"i found someone to take my shift-what time are we leaving?"

how do i play this on saturday night? give her limited attention? act like we're together? just play it cool?

i'd like to turn her into a fb, but ultimately, make her regret she ever left me.

[Yorkshireman]

The trouble with playing it cool in this situation is that so often you look like you are trying to play it cool. I'm friends with my ex, an whilst we get on well, she still watches me like a hawk when we go out drinking. This, i'm assuming, is not because she wants me back but to ensure I dont get anyone better than her. If you go out and ignore her it'll look petty and immature and she'll wind up hating you. If you crack on to other girls but involve her in it she'll feel pissed but wont be able to justify being mad at you.

One bonus here is that lasses really like a guy who can have a platonic relationship with an ex so introduce your ex to girls you meet and crowbar into the conversation that you used to date.

[TrueStory]

golden rule of players: If you fucked her good once, you'll fuck her again.

Just play it cool at first, escalate like you would with a fuck buddy. Don't act like you're "together" or you're going to set off red flags. Just be non needy, flirt around, and tease her. Towards the night, escalate kino, and you should be golden.

[shady223]

truestory-i like your advice, it sounds golden.

anyone else wonder why this girl would take off of work to go out with me again? i feel it's a bold move on her part to take off work to hang out again...maybe i'm looking too far into it.

[Vapor]

Every single thread you have ever made on this forum has been about THIS girl. You have terrible oneitis. And she's nuts.

First there was the "Sperm Russian Roulette Thread"
Intentionally cumming inside of her

Then "How Do I Get My Crazy Girl Back?" Thread
made a big mistake...how do i get her back?

Then you broke up and wanted a FB situation (deja vu)
Very Unique situation, ex-gf -> FB?

Then you realized she's mentally ill
Borderline Personality Disorder

Then you became "What are we? girl."
4 months of dating without bf/gf title?

And she's dumped you again and you want her back. Again.

You are hereby not allowed to post about this person here ever again. There have been many, many hours wasted by people here reading and advising you, and that's going to stop. This place is about building a SKILL SET, not chasing after the one goofy broad you can't stop thinking about.

That means meeting more women.

[shady223]

Vapor-

i DID have oneitis. No longer. I am already seeing and f closing other women. I am simply trying to turn her into a FB. I believe she has borderline personality disorder, and if you would take time to google the illness, nobody in their right mind would get into a relationship with her. That being said, she is an HB10, and I would like to keep her in my "black book."

Your post was fairly rude. Frankly, I'm a little insulted. There was no need to create a new thread, slamming me. I would expect a little more consideration from a mod.

[TrueStory]

Shady,

Vapor doesn't sissy around as administrator and as a man, you shouldn't either, and take criticism as a man.

Also, if your HB10 was UG2 would you still be chasing after her, border personality disorder or not?

What's the difference?!

[Vapor]

Shady, it reads a little blunter than I intended, and I regret that.

However,

i DID have oneitis. No longer.

The fact that nearly 100% of your posts have been related to this one girl suggests strongly otherwise.

I am simply trying to turn her into a FB. I believe she has borderline personality disorder, and if you would take time to google the illness, nobody in their right mind would get into a relationship with her.

I know what BPD is. A FB is a relationship. You should be avoiding her altogether.

That being said, she is an HB10, and I would like to keep her in my "black book."

Scarcity mentality. Your black book should be completely free of mentally unstable women who create drama in your life. Period. That is what a guy with options does.

Your post was fairly rude. Frankly, I'm a little insulted. There was no need to create a new thread, slamming me. I would expect a little more consideration from a mod.

I didn't create a new thread, I renamed your SIXTH one about the same girl.

Sorry about the tone. About consideration, however, insofar as I reacted emotionally, it was because I saw you wasting a LOT of other members' time. Not cool.

[shady223]

my apologies to anyone's time I wasted. I just assumed if people didn't want to take the time to read, they wouldn't.

I realize my past posts have been about her, but that's simply bc she was the only girl in my life for the past few months. Since the breakup, I have moved on, so I don't feel I have oneitis. Yes, I still have feelings, and yes she may be nuts, but it's not easy to pass up a piece of ass like hers.

I won't create any new threads about her...I hadn't planned on it. I can take criticism, but I did feel it was a bit rash.

[mindquicken]

mostly pay attention to other people but acknowledge her existence every once in a while. Engage the group, tell DHV stories, etc.