Easing down when she wants to ramp up?

[harlow_28]

i find myself in this situation a lot now. i date a girl a few times. have sex with her a few times. then well... she's just not the ONE. she's too this or too that. too old or too young or too pushy or too much of a temper or maybe just too darn desperate.

but basically there's nothing really really wrong with her and she hasn't done anything bad to me. i don't like the LJBF talk because it really pisses off most girls and it's clearly a rejection. plus, then they won't f**k you anymore .... it's not my major concern to keep having sex with them. i guess i don't care that much. i just want to ramp down the relationship to the point where i only see them once or twice a month (at most) without really hurting their feelings or getting them upset.

there must be solid game out there for this situation...

- harlow

[jiggatycoon]

Ok, I'm far from an expert on this area and I probably couldn't claim that I have more experiential knowledge than you do that can help you, BUT I do have a possible insight.

I don't think you can let it get to the point where you have to give them the LJBF (or similar) talk or until they bring it up. I think it's a frame you have to set much earlier on.

Plus, it's just basic fairness and good will...don't let them think it is more than it is. Or at least don't contribute to them thinking it is more than it is. They still might get too attached later on, but at least you'll be less to blame for it.

Basically, there are probably many ways to go about this, but let it be known that you're not looking for something serious BEFORE comes to expect exclusivity or commitment or whatever.