Getting A Relationship Back On Track

[GWElement]

Afternoon all,

This question may well be easily answered in a few seconds, but I tried searching the forums and couldn't really find what I was looking for. (Although the 10 Tips post was HILARIOUS!)

Are there any solid posts / discussions regarding how to get a relationship back on track? Essentially, my gf and I have been dating for nearly a year now and although things are still going rather well, I'm starting to see small signs of apathy, lack of compliance, fighting for control, etc. in her. And rather than letting it grow into something of significance, I'd rather preempt the problem and deal with it while it's small and easy to address.

If it turns out that the links / posts I am directed to are insufficient, I'll spell out the problem in greater detail and seek more specific advice, but I don't want to be redundant.

Cheers!

[JumpingFromPlanes]

You could just ask her whats up.

[the_sLiDe]

I have found that when this happens, starting to spend a little more time on yourself.. i.e go out with friends without her or whatever it is that you do... makes her realize that your life doesn't revolve around her and that she has to try a little harder so that you make time for her ... my 2 cents.

[sampanye]

Bravo on wanting to take preemptive action.

I'd like to be able to help but you're asking a very broad question without any real detail. What sort of signs of apathy, lack of compliance etc is she showing? Sometimes this is just a phase - are either of you particularly stressed at the moment or have other things going on in your lives that could be contributing to this attitude?

Take a good look at yourself and your behaviour, as well as hers. Usually when this sort of issue arises it is neither person's "fault". I agree with sLiDe that having your own life is really important. Don't ignore her or start blowing her off for the boys every night, but a little time apart can work wonders. People tend to take their partners for granted when they're constantly around one another. Do you live with her or does she stay over most nights a week?