GF - aloof/kinda distant

[mattyJ]

Hi

I've been seeing my GF for about 2 months now and it has all gone very well thanks to MM & these forums

Now that we've been together a little while I'm starting to get a little frustrated with my girl being a bit shy or just distant in bed. She'll happily do most things i tell/ask her to do in bed and we can have as much sex as I want in a week which is awesome. I've given her the best orgasms of her life and she is pretty close to squirting now. Problem is I'd like her to initiate every now and then, just jump me or get wicked into BJ's etc. I give her pointers and really encourage her but nothing's really helping.

She's a pretty damn good GF just sick of having to tell her or suggest things. If it goes on like this I can see myself getting bored within the next few months.

Any suggestions....?

[BigDuke6]

Some girls are just wired to be passive. Initiating sex isn't in the realm of consideration.

You can tease her - slow, erotic massage, then freeze out - get her temperature up and desire going, aka "Blue Walls".

[TrueStory]

Originally Posted by mattyJ

Hi

I've been seeing my GF for about 2 months now and it has all gone very well thanks to MM & these forums

Now that we've been together a little while I'm starting to get a little frustrated with my girl being a bit shy or just distant in bed. She'll happily do most things i tell/ask her to do in bed and we can have as much sex as I want in a week which is awesome. I've given her the best orgasms of her life and she is pretty close to squirting now. Problem is I'd like her to initiate every now and then, just jump me or get wicked into BJ's etc. I give her pointers and really encourage her but nothing's really helping.

She's a pretty damn good GF just sick of having to tell her or suggest things. If it goes on like this I can see myself getting bored within the next few months.

Any suggestions....?

You frame this relationship as ask/tell her instead of lead/take control.

You're man. Biologically, you should be initiating sex. You're dominant male, why in the world would you sit and wait until she jumps your bones? You know what happens to guys that wait for their girlfriends to fuck them? They wait, and wait, and wait, and wait, and wait........meanwhile guys like myself, who take the lead, keep fucking them and fucking and fucking ...while their boyfriends are waiting and waiting and waiting.



Some girls, indeed will jump the fuck out of you, but most........will let you lead. And that's what you're supposed to be doing.

But don't take advice for granted, do stimulate her and do turn her on as much as you can. Even though she will not jump your dick she will get much greater satisfaction when you fuck the shit out of her.

[xOddity]

Consider sex fun... Sure suggestions play into your favor and take advantage of them. If you have a suggestion use it to your advantage. For example "Sweetheart, it would really turn me on for you to jump on top of me and do me like a rock star." The man is supposed to lead in bed. If you want to do something then simply suggest it. Nine times out of ten she will do it.

[FemmeFatale]

Dont hint, just tell her "listen, i want you to start initiating sex and sexual things..its boring if its just me doing it".

Then back off and dont initiate a thing.