LDR Breakup - 10 Days left! advice needed

[mpro]

Hey All,

I'm in a long distance relationship, or was, up until yesterday. My gut instinct told me something was up, and after some prying I found out she needs someone who can be with her locally. She is no longer willing to move to NJ because she would lose all of her friends. Understandable. I wasn't supposed to find out this soon.

We are still in love, but due to her described intense emotional hurt the distance causes she can no longer deal with it. It's more or less mutual.


I've got 10 days left on this trip! We're going to her best friends wedding today. I've already have the "I don't give a fuck attitude" and gonna have a blast. But we are debating whether or not I should stay the rest of the trip. Sex is still good, feelings are there. What do you think is in my best interest?

I initially told her that if we don't have any problems with each other, if the emotions are still there, then lets "celebrate" the relationship that was and enjoy each other for ten days. I said, lets face it, once I get on that plane we're never going to see each other again.

Again, what is in my best interest here?

[MAG!C]

Stay man! Its for the best! Enjoy the last days with her. Maybe something will change, you never know. Girls are weird. Stay and half fun, drink, have a good time, dance.

And most of all. Bone that girl.
hard.

Like it should be not about when ever SHE wants sex, but when ever YOU want sex. And YOU WANT IT A LL THE DAMN TIME! hahahahahah!

Fuck her hard, till she creams and moans and shit, and just keep going.
That is my advice.

[Yodatg]

I'm in an LDR also mate, and this reminds me of something that my girl does EVERYTIME either of us leaves...

She'll do REALLY annoying things...like flick or poke me...and be a bit off. It's not done in a playful manner...its kind of like malicious. I was like 'ey....EY! Cut the shit. What are you doing?!'. She looked at the floor. 'What are you doing babe?". I drew my own conclusion and said "You're trying to piss me off so I'll break up with you aren't you?". She said yes. I was like "look - the doors there. I'M not breaking up with you, but if you want to go...then go'. BOOM. 'NO NO NO I don't want to loose you blah blah blah...I thought this would make it easier blah blah'.

Chicks are weird like that mate...I pretty much guarentee when it comes to the crunch, she won't want to break it off.

You know they're emotional creatures and logic plays NO part (well...very little) in their decisions? She's associating too much pain at the thought of not being with you, as apose to associating pleasure to BEING with you.

My advice...stick it out...bone the shit into her...show her an AWESOME time, and be super chilled. I don't know how long you've been in this LDR for, but try your best to remain as unafected as possible. Think about the POSITIVES. At the end of the day...YOU can go back and pick up ladys from your area...

WIN WIN buddy. I ALWAYS think like this with my LDR (and also any other relationship). It's cool at the moment, but if we break up, cool, i'll find someone closer, if not, and we remain cool - awesome - I have a cool relationship.

Sweat it not my friend...you live once. Make the most of the time you've go left...

[sdnightfly]

Expect arguments before you go.

Bottom line, right now she's not willing to take a chance with you, but maybe over time she will rethink it. Maybe her friends won't be as valuable to her, maybe the guys in her area won't be the same as it is with you, and if you keep the door open, build a social network, have new friends, she might be buying a plane ticket sooner than later.

It's that fear of the unknown.

But what she doesn't know is that a lot of times friends drift apart, esp. if they're friends from high school. Sometimes keeping those friends around longer than you should does more harm than good.

The closer you get to leaving, the harder it's going to be for her to deal with, and might not be up for sex and just want your company.