How to make her your girlfriend

[RJay Classics]

Thanks man appreciate the advice.

[billt72]

Originally Posted by Savoy

It is a rare woman who will see you 2-3 times per week and never refer to you as her boyfriend or initiate a discussion about the future. But if it happens, then the responsibility falls on you to say something like “I feel funny bringing this up, but I realized we never actually talked about this. Are we supposed to be seeing other people?” Be emotionally neutral – and not nervous – when you say this. One way or another, this will resolve the issue

Question here: Is this still the right move if she has been giving a lot of mixed signals but lately been asking all kinds of questions that seem probing into my activities outside of our relationship? But she hasn't actually taken in it any further than that or initiated the complete conversation. Also in the past she has sent a lot of mixed signals indicating some serious hang ups about anything that is "officially" too serious I guess you could stay. It's difficult to describe. Would like to try to figure out which direction this thing is headed without putting any pressure or losing any ground that's already been gained.

[linkx]

i jsut remmeberd about her job interview thnx great post!

[Autoace]

Great job Savoy, especially in bringing up the fact that women often display odd behaviors either immediately or the day following a sexual encounter. I have made the mistake in the past of taking these to heart rather than with a grain of salt.

In fact, I did this last Wednesday. lol

[flyboy352]

Im glad this is here! I was just thinking about how this girl Im currently seeing but nothing official is definite ltr potential.

We see each other 2-3 times per week, I havent met her friends but I have met her parents and she asked me what I thought of them (test to see if I get along with her family maybe?). We dont talk much though unless its to set up a date. What can I do to talk more without appearing needy/clingy?

[mddriver]

OK, now I have a question about my current position, my really big screw up. I live in FL and met a girl in CT. My job as a pilot allows that to actually work. I was busy doing training on my days off and was unable to go to CT as often as I wanted, so basically got to know this girl via tel for over 2 months
Talked several times per day, we got very close and I actually let my guard down and said things way to soon, but she didnt mind... but that just set things up for alot of pressure when we were finally able to get back together last week, but it actually made for a pressured situation for both of us. But we had a blast and everything went really great (maybe too great)... I think she might feel a little guilty for the things we did
I do really like this girl, super fun and cool girl, she can hold her own out hangin with the guys ya know.
Unfortunately, try to play things down... plus trying to pull a reaction out of her I went the negative route towards myself without even thinking about it, things we had talked about several times.
Needless to say she took things the wrong way got made, now thinks I'm insecure I guess and I managed to piss her off at the same time.
Now she tells me she's confused, I havent heard from her in a few days, then I get a text from her saying she was just in a car accident but OK, I called her.... but we still havent talked now in almost a week.
I assume she needs her space, but at the same time shouldnt I still try to keep things going? But she hasnt replied to my call or text from a few days ago.
Any suggestions???