Is qualification too narrow?

[Aesthetikz]

I've been reading some standard "qualification" material and i feel like it's only half the story...

Juggler says to reveal your (true) values to the girl and have them be accepted by her. Isn't this sort of qualification? When she doesn't accept your values, those can be treated like "mini-negs", and she qualifies herself by accepting your values and "changing on some level to fit you".

Isn't that qualification - just in a completely different way?

I feel like qualification and attraction are more like a gradient. The first attraction you run is like disqualifying her, or teasing her into a negative frame (or DHVing... yawn! ). Then later, maybe you're disqualifying her in a more sexual way (ie. i'm dumping you!) with you suggesting her interest... or perhaps you're baiting-hooking and releasing... or push/pulling! These are all giving her a little validation but not enough that she's satisfied. Gradually more validation is "earned" and "rewarded" and you get comfort... right?

Basically, I'm trying to point out "qualification" when it isn't called "qualification" to get a better understanding of the process and find the most natural way for me to go about it.