Unique Things to Qualify Girls On

[kombat1]

Hey everybody.

My topic here is examples of unique things to qualify girls on.

We know many of the mundane things you could get out of
a girl, but I wanted to know if anyone has any good examples of
unique things you could find out about the girl and the question(s)
that comes with it.

[zakpak23]

The best qualifications are the genuine ones. Make up something personal and true, it's better than anything clever or unique.

[kombat1]

Can you give me some good questions
where I might be able to find out some
genuine things about the girl?

(I've always managed to skip qualification
and its catching up to me so I have to get
that part of my game tight.)

thx

[Prestige]

Ok I don't think you are understanding the significance of qualification. Basically until you qualify a girl any compliments you give her she will see as disgenuine and something you are saying only because you think she is attractive. That is why it is important not to really compliment or show to much interest in a girl you haven't qualified. What qualifications are though are really just you finding out if this girl is someone you'd be interested in. So mainly you want to ask her things that are important to you in a relationship.

Can you cook?
Are you close to your parents?
Do you like going to the gym?
Do you surf?
Have you done much traveling?
What was the last book you read?
Are you in school or what did you go to school for?
Are you a cat or a dog person?

You basically anything you want to know about her. You have to think of this part as an interview. She is interviewing to date you and you need to determine if she is good enough for the job. Also to help make your compliments seem more genuine, disqualify some of her answers and hone your compliments in on one of them. Kind of like this:

You: So can you cook?
Her: I mean sort of. I mean who can't make Mac & Cheese?
You: Ha ha... Oh you need help. lucky for you I am an excellent cook. I will have to teach you. We'll have to go shopping together to pick out some stuff and then we can go back to my place and I will show you how to make this awesome margarita chicken and rice dish.
Her: Ha ha... That sounds fun.
You: I mean we could do it at your place but I bet you only have a coupe of tupperware bowls in your kitchen.
Her: Ha ha, Yah right?
You: What was the last book you read?
Her: Oh well I am reading "The last lecture" right now and am almost done with it.
You: really? what's that about?
Her: Its a book about living life to its fullest
You: Wow that is really awesome. You know when you said you couldn't cook I was worried you were just one of those powder puff Cosmo girls. But the fact that you would read something like that is really impressive. That is so cool. Has it made a change in your life?
Her: Well now I find myself taking chances or doing things I might have bean nervous about before and not have ever tried.
You: I love that about you. I am very much into trying to get myself to do things that are normally out of my comfort zone too. You seem so cool I am very curious about you now.

There are several points here.
1) Qualification questions not only let you find out things you want to know about the girl you might be interested in but they can set the scene for your own DHV stories or ways to talk about your positives. Like the fact that you are a good cook or you are a world traveler.
2) You are disqualifying her on the fact that she can't cook which only makes your interest in her for choice of reeding material more genuine and therefore makes her feel like she really earned that compliment.
3) Another thing is you can use your qualification questions to help you set up a Day 2 date.
4) Also something I didn't mention before is qualification can seed the frame you want to set with the girl. If you are looking for an SNL then you would really frame the fact that you love how she wants to live each moment to the fullest.

[kombat1]

thanks prestige that really clears things up for me.

[Dom_ination]

Great job prestige, very well explained.

[jech]

Originally Posted by Prestige

If you are looking for an SNL then you would eally frame the fact that you love how she wants to live each moment to the fullest.

very important.

[kombat1]

Hey Prestige (or anyone else who can give some thoughts on this)

What do you guys think about Rokker's Questions versus Statments article about Qualification?

Here's the link:

http://blog.lovesystems.com/?p=1204

I'm just curious because Prestige takes a different approach than Rokker.

Just want your thoughts.

Thanks,

Kombat1

[The One Self]

I like to use a blend and insinuate things about a girl to get her to keep qualifying herself.

IE :

Instead of asking-

"Do you have a good profession and do you overwork yourself ? "
(at my age an important question)

I would say instead -
"I bet you have a crazy job rescuing dogs from Michael Vicks house that keeps you busy all the time, huh ?"

It is completely congruent if you have a CF style like me, and it gets them talking because a lot of girls DO NOT LIKE TO BE ASKED QUESTIONS LIKE THEY ARE ON AN INTERVIEW, and can sometimes only give you short answers.

As always, try a few different ones and use what works best for you.

Good luck

[Prestige]

Hey Kombat1! Sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you on this. I have been really buisy with work lately. To answer your question first off let me just say that I have worked with Rokker and he is pretty much a Bad Ass in the world of PU. Ideally you want to lead any interaction you are in like in chess how you want to know what moves you want to make several moves ahead. Statement qualification is a great way to force frame a girl. To understand framing I highly suggest you get the Frame Control CD. It is one of my favorites. I'll expalain it a little hear but it is what Rokker is doing by Statement Qualification.

Say you feel your girl is maybe hesitant to leave her group to go out to breakfast with you. You might pose a qualification statement like, "I love how you are such a free spirit and aren't constantly looking for approval from your friends, like how you had no problem leaving them to come hang out with me over here away from them. I love girls that are independent and know how to do their own thing and don't need there friends to entertain them."

Now remember that your have to have established Value for statements like that to have an affect on the target. Also note that I just made this statemtment up with little thought. so odn't use it verbatem. there are a lot of steps you would have ot take before even thinking of saying something like this in order to bounce a girl. Hopefully you know this though.

Basically Framing is a little more of an advanced tactic and I posed the question style as your basic bread and butter. Learn and use it but always look for more effective means. Ask question qualifiers and pose statement qualifiers. They will both work but if you can control the frame as Rokker is suggesting it is more effective.

Hope this helps and is not to brief and confusing but I am at work and pressed for time. If you have any other questions or I wasn't clear on any of this please let me know and I will try to expound on it or clearify