How to react when she tells you she has a kid?

[El_Presidente]

So I'm in qualification stage talking about things, I'm getting some solid IOI's and she brings up the fact that she has a kid. I get the feeling she's testing to see how I will react.

I responded by asking a couple questions and showing some genuine interest, told her I thought kids were a lot of fun around age 3 but joked around about how I find difficulty entertaining something that can't talk. Mainly acted like it wasn't a big deal but didn't want to give the indication that I was kissing her kids ass just to try and win her over...

I think it worked & eventually # closed. How do you guys usually react to this information? Is this a solid opportunity to go into something that could win her over a little more?

[Fresno Smooth]

kids are kinda a deal breaker for me
i dont like em not in a rush to have them or be around them
onr day im sure

if she has a kid and i find out about it later
thats fine but i dont wanna be a daddy

just dont maek a big deal about it

[El_Presidente]

Originally Posted by Fresno Smooth

kids are kinda a deal breaker for me
i dont like em not in a rush to have them or be around them
onr day im sure

if she has a kid and i find out about it later
thats fine but i dont wanna be a daddy

just dont maek a big deal about it

I'm not trying to marry ... and she's about a 8 in the face with a fitness-model body so I'd make an exception anyway.

[TrueStory]

What Fresno said, and

if she's under 25, stay away...

if she's over 25, she'll be really direct about what she wants and what she is looking for.

the young ones, usually lie to "trap you"

[LGFUAD]

bye!... Unless you dont mind kids...

[jiggatycoon]

some of this kind of depends on what the situation is. is she in your town and in a position to become your fb or are you both from out of town and only looking for a ONS?

[sdnightfly]

You're at 30, you're going to run into women who have kids esp. if you're meeting them online, and I agree with True Story about over/under 25.

I'd want to know how often she's got the kids, her family support system, and their quality of life. Dealbreaker for me is if I see the kid early on, and if she's having to hire babysitters to go on dates. It's kind of funny because if they have kids or pets, which a lot of women see as their BS detector, I usually pass and it winds up making them more comfortable.

Most of the ones I've met that have had kids were in no rush to get married, they just wanted to have fun.

If she's bringing the kid on what you thought was going to be the first date? It's not a date. You've been bratblocked, and the questions they'll throw at you can make any shit test you've ever experienced or the first time you went to meet her parents look like... kid stuff. Parents are easy, her friends are easy, but the 3-4 year olds that ask a million questions will drive you to drink.

A lot of times if you both have kids around the same age, it winds up going into an LTR, but the problem is that the kids might not get along. And if you don't have kids, any opinion winds up "you don't have kids, you don't understand".

[Ita_vero]

Erm...excuse me but doesn't the reaction kinda depend on your attitude towards a woman who already has kids If you like 'em say so, if not bye.

[latinavo]

I think that in the book the game style mentions a part when he was kinda dating a girl that had a kid.