What if Qualification Goes Wrong?

[Enigma89]

Hey guys, I have been seeing this girl and I was LJBF from the start and I finally broke through that yesterday. I know she is thinking me differently so it is time to make a statement of intention with her and qualification should start.

The problem is I am not completely sure if it is time yet and I am wondering what do you do if you try to SOI and it goes wrong.

For example if you say any of these:

-I am really glad I got to know you better because I am starting to think you are really attractive, but I can't really say that because I still have not completely figured you out.
-*Put chapstick on* Don't get any ideas, just in case there's kissing later on
-Meeting you restores my faith in female kind
-You rock! I think gonna keep you
-You are different from other girls that I have met.
-This is getting better by the minute.
-I have to admit, you've completely turned around my first impression of you..

And if she responds well, then boom you both know thats its on. But if she responds bad to it, how do you go to get the upper hand again. Do you go ahead and neg her again? Or what?

[Durk]

Fuck someone else then come back to her later she probably has something on her mind at the moment.

[Rolls]

You should qualify her first:

So when was the last time you did something for the first time?

She says what she says...

Then you go deeper into the subject:

So what happened to the little buny rabbit, how did that make you feel?

Then you reward her sufficiently once she has interested you enough.

Wow, you are really deep, I never thought that could be something that would interest me... you are really cool!

This way, she has put something into the interaction, so that when you reward her, it is becuase of what she has actually done, and not the fact that you just think she is a great piece of ass.

The more she puts into the qualification, the more you can reward her, especially with SOI's.

If you came out with an SOI, and then tried to qualify, it would not work, because she already knows you are attracted. This equates to being no push pull.

Hope this helps!

[Enigma89]

Originally Posted by Rolls

You should qualify her first:

So when was the last time you did something for the first time?

She says what she says...

Then you go deeper into the subject:

So what happened to the little buny rabbit, how did that make you feel?

Then you reward her sufficiently once she has interested you enough.

Wow, you are really deep, I never thought that could be something that would interest me... you are really cool!

This way, she has put something into the interaction, so that when you reward her, it is becuase of what she has actually done, and not the fact that you just think she is a great piece of ass.

The more she puts into the qualification, the more you can reward her, especially with SOI's.

If you came out with an SOI, and then tried to qualify, it would not work, because she already knows you are attracted. This equates to being no push pull.

Hope this helps!

Thanks so much

[monki]

not sure if you have presented you SOI yet
i think the deliver is more important than anything
make sure you dont act like you are needy for her positive response
u ll be fine

[elli]

OMG!!! WHAT IF???

Not be a dick, but I really think all this is doing is killing your game. If you set up attraction right these girls should be laying at the door of qualification like a puppy at the bedroom door of its owner. X this window out, cancel your thread subscription and never think this thought again.

EDIT:
Sinn has an excellent write up on what he calls "microcalibrating" which I think should completely answer your question. Here it is:
Microcalibration