It's been a year since I wrote my last post "A3 Realization" and there's some bullet points I'd like to add...
*The idea is not to make the girl qualify herself to you. The idea is to simply make the girl feel qualified.
When I truly understood this and got that concept the "What are three things about you that would make me want to know you better?" and "Are you a good cook?" questions just kind of stopped.
I didn't need to bait or reel or any of that stuff anymore. I didn't even need to ask questions. I still might sometimes if there really is stuff I want to know but it really is more for me, it's not to run qualification material.
What do I mean by this? Here's an easy example and while it takes a guy 15 minutes of qualification game you might be able to do it with one line. Here you go...
"Idk what it is...but there's something about you...it's weird but you just have this amazing energy that I click with. Like you have this vibe, I can't explain it...it's to bad I had to meet you at a club."
This is an extreme example and I probably won't say that but hey if you're pressed for time and you need to get the job done quick...there ya go.
Most often I'll just do my own thing and she'll find ways to qualify herself. It's basically taking out the unnatural "Bait" and letting her just do it because she actually WANTS to qualify herself...then just make her feel qualified. If she sucks at doing it then yea I still want to qualify her with something UNIQUE and be able to show GENUINE interest...nothing is more powerful. Just realize you're not trying to make the girl qualify...you're trying to instill the feeling that she IS qualified. It'll make a subtle yet powerful difference to how you do this.
* Show Sexual Interest
Guys who strictly follow Mystery Method and the Emotional Progression Model usually have a problem here. They figure getting sexual is to much interest and the girl has to jump through more hoops then an olympic gold medalist to get a peck. It's a messed up concept for guys the idea of "If I get sexual with her I'll lower my value because I'm displaying to much interest." That messed me up for only god knows how long...
Stop that. If you think this way just stop.
Think of A3 as going back and fort between showing GENUINE interest and SEXUAL interest. If I see a window of escalation...I'm going for it. If I see a chance to kiss the girl...I'm taking it.
Funny thing is...even if you get rejected your value goes up. It's weird but it's true. I'm sure many want to know why so here it is...
Because you had the balls to go for it....that's why.
The girl understands that and is attracted to a guy who can be ballsy. Just don't be phased by the rejection and keep going. It's not really a rejection it just means not yet. I might go for the kiss close 5 times before I get it. Either way I'm getting it.
Showing sexual interest in a non creepy and needy way raises value it does not lower it. Best time to do it (best time for anything really) is when you spike a girls buying temperature. Also when you want to reward her. You being sexual with her is a reward for her...you're giving her your sexuality...SHOW THAT SEXUAL INTEREST!
Do you see the powerful frame here?
*IOI for IOI...IOD for IOD...IOI for BIG IOD....IOD for BIG IOI
This gets a little advanced and touches on micro calibration but try it out and you'll see it's power.
When a girl is showing you interest and giving small IOIs...it's ok to IOI her back. Pace that and it builds rapport and attraction.
HB: (Opens you) You're cute...
Psych: (looks her up and down) You're not to bad yourself, what's your name?
IOI for IOI
You also want to IOD for IOD.
If a girl starts subtley showing disinterest or giving shit tests you need to match it and show disinterest right back. Punish her for bad behavior.
HB: (Glances away like she's so cool and bored)
Psych: You got something in your teeth babe...
You punish that shit and train her subtely not to act that way.
Most of us know this...what many don't know is that there's a weird reversal to the rule. Follow this and it'll either help make a set more incredible or win back a set that you thought you were sure to lose.
IOD for BIG IOI
When a girl starts showing HUGE IOIs and when she spikes her buying temperature you can either keep stacking BT spikes which is fine or you can IOD. WHY WOULD YOU IOD PSYCH SHE'S ALL INTO YOU?!
The reason why is to establish a chasing frame and keep her working for you...she is most likely to do this when she is showing huge IOIs or her BT is spiked because that will be when she wants you the most and is congruent with that frame.
Psych: (runs routine)
HB: OMG that's insane! You're so funny/Show me something else/You rock/Our signs are compatible (I get this alot lately for some reason lol)
Psych: (gets distracted by something and acts like I have ADD)
HB: (grabs me) Hey what's your name?!
There it is...making her chase and making her invest. This is crucial to make things happen with this girl. You can't do the work, she has to do the work. The more work she does the closer you get to her flipping some internal switch where she chooses "I'm gonna have sex with this guy."
IOI for BIG IOD
Many times we get into this IOD battle. She says something bitchy, we respond with a neg or knock her down, she turns away, we do a take away, she walks away. Congrats you saved your value and lost the girl. I hope that value keeps you warm at night.
There comes a time where you went to far and the girl NEEDS validation. She is associating a bad and negative feeling in your prescence and it doesn't matter how much value you have. If she feels crappy around you she will go off and find a guy that makes her feel good and gives her validation.
When you get a big IOD or realize to many small IODs have been stacking up it's time to pull out an IOI for her and you'll see the set be instantly won back.
Psych: Does this watch make me look fat? (Opener)
HB: Is that a pick up line? (Shit test)
Psych: Why would I want to pick you up? (IOD...to harsh though)
HB: Wtvr (IOD)
Psych: Wow you are so witty with your Wtvr line...mad props (IOD)
HB: I'm a lot wittier then you, you're not even cute (Big IOD)
Psych: OMG I absolutely LOVE this girl! ::saying to obstacles:: You're pretty confident huh? (IOI)
HB: Hell yea! I'm the shit buddy LOL (IOI? Not sure what to call this but usually the kind of reaction)
Psych: :
ushes her away:: To bad your such a goober dorkus (Release)
HB: ::hits my arms:: LOL screw you! I'm cool as shit! (IOI)
This has to be done. If I continued our IOD battle I would lose the girl. Calibration and time in field will let you know when to show an IOI or IOD. Also notice I just made her FEEL QUALIFIED and how she is already naturally qualifying herself. See the first bullet point on that idea. This is kind of what I do now and it avoids random and awkward questions that are kind of forced in and don't flow naturally.
Hope this helps.
-Psych
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A3 Realization 2
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