Is she testing my qualifications?

[traska]

Hi guys, this is my first thread=)

My question:
Is she just testing me? Please read below:

I've just met this perfect woman, who I think I've fallen in love with. I met her a few weeks before valentine, so I gave her flowers on valentine, just to show how I felt for her, you know just to ensure we wouldn't fell in to the firends-zone...

Ok.. The problem is, this gils is a little to cocky. You know, aggressive.. bad temper.. what is up whit that? She is saying all cocky things/reponses to me.. Is she just testing me? You know to se if I'm a real man or what? I've acually never met a woman like this.. she's smart and tough as h*ll. Does she want me to be cocky back? You know so we won't become friends, but I don't know.. something more sexuallity.. because that's what women want right.. confident men... not a needy geek who can't stand up for him self... So is this her way to test me? How should I response her cocky responses and answers? How do you treat a woman like this?

Common guys, help me out...

Thanks in advance!

[luv_asa]

No. She's not qualifying you. She's just testing you to see what type of person you are. I have a couple of girls at work that do that to me. They'll say the wittiest things and it just throws me off.

She's testing to see how strong your frame is. I know what type of girl you're talking about. Its real important for you to study Hoop Theory. She'll say/do things to make you jump in her hoops. If you don't do the right thing under pressure, you'll slip up and DLV. From my experience, mostly black girls do this alot, they be hard on it too. Same for white girls that act black cuz they get it from the black girls.

Really scandelous women will do stuff like that too, to see if they can control you. I can recall a time when I was with a girl like that. She kept flirting with me and teasing me, then pulling away to see how easy I was. I gave her and her friend a ride to the store. She dropped some change after we walked out the door and she said, "Pick that up." I was so turned off that she thought I'd kiss her ass that I said, "You pick it up." She said, "Excuse me?!" I passed that test cuz I kept walking to the truck without looking back. She picked up the change and apologized when she got in the passenger side.

I'm looking into the hoops right now cuz these girls are a trip.

[traska]

Wow, thank you very much for your well explained reply. What you are saying sounds logic. I have a black childhood girlfriend, and now that you mentioned it, you are right, she has that attitude too.. maybe I should call her..

anyways.. if I really do stand up stong for myself, you know, like I don't give a sh*t, how big are the chanses that the whole thing will blow off? because this girl is really hard to read.. sometimes I question myself, does she really do this in purpose, or is this just her personality- her way to be? Because, if this is her personallity, then I'll maybe end up hurt her feelings, (because she's not aware of the "game" - she is acually not testing me) but if she plays the game, then she'll be more aware of the situation...

my real personallity is to treat girls and others more like "I don't give a damn", but I tend to get soft for this chick... think I have to be myself a litte more

thank you for you reply=)