bait, hook release... learn from my mistake

[Sinan]

i knew about the mystery method went off it then kind of came back to it.

anyways this girl from school i like. i asked another girl on the table if she knows what topics im going to get on my maths test. and the girl i like said i do i can help you.

so i said yeah ok come here and help me. so she was telling me topics. and she did something. and i said thats very thoughtful of you and i smiled. she smiled and said yeah im quite kind. then for some dumb reason i said no your not. she got kind of upset and left and told her friends. i told her i didnt mean what i said and i chat shit and told her to come back here and she did. so she said to me why do you have to be so annoying sometimes people would like you more if you wernt so annoying. then i said i dont really care if people like me and laughed and then she said well you will when your older. then anyways we carried on talking for a bit. and then when she finished i asked her to wish me luck. and she did i talked to her later. i told her i wanst going to the lesson anyways and she told me someone who was doing the test was here so i sat next to her and she told me i should still go to the test. and i smiled and said why. and then i said because its the right thing to do showing that i think shes a good person or whatever and she said ye. anyways i talked to her later.

but tell me was this push and pull or what.

i am currently studying mystery method as i just got it a day or two ago but this kind of makes me feel stupid.

[erudyte]

Im not surprised she got upset, that isnt push-pull, thats a flat out insult. To say thats very thoughtful, thats pull, yeah, but when you push after that it has to be gentle and funny, not something that looks like a straight up insult. What you could have said is something like this :

You : Thats really thoughtful of you
Her: Yeah Im quite kind
You: You do seem kind (pull), yeah.....shame I never date the nice, good girls. (push) (said with a smile)

There youve pushed and pulled, but the push was not an insult, just a little tease. Its about mixing up signs of interest and disinterest in a subtle way, not insults.

[Sinan]

thats a good one. we learn from all mistakes anyways.