Mirroring Vs strong self identity dichotomy?

[erudyte]

I have a little dilemma sometimes when I am in rapport phase with a target - On the one hand I use a lot of verbal mirroring (taking what shes just said and basically regurgitating it so she thinks I understand her/empathise with her, have a similar outlook etc). At the same time I wonder whether it is possible to overdo this and run the risk of looking like you're trying too hard to agree with her, and so lose your own strong identity and set of beliefs which are essential for showing you as 'prize'. (as a lot of what David Deangelo seems to suggest). Deangelo seems to suggest deliberately doing the opposite of what her opinion is, though I wonder whether this risks preventing her thinking you have mutual understanding.

What are your thought on this?

[the_chiller]

It's no fun to agree on everything. It's boring. Disagreement opens up the opportunity for banter, negs, and playfulness.

Be real.

Don't agree or disagree because you think it's gunna score you points. Be yourself, and have your own opinion.