The Genius Ego Chick: The HB 8 who is even smarter than she is hot.

meanmrgrither · #1 (**permalink**) 10-26-2007, 08:41 AM

So, qualification is to show a girl you think she's special. to really show attraction to her.

There's this one chick, she is soooo wrapped up in her own personality and appearance, that it isn't possible to qualify her.

For example "yeah, you're pretty smart," her: "I know."

or "we have matching tastes in music, that's actually cool" her: "my taste is better."

honestly, all i've been able to do is hammer at her ego and rebuild her. I debate her for around 30 minutes, she FINALLY just stopped talking and muttered "i'm pretty."

Note: she is literally a genius, but so am I. All of her ex's have been, intelligentsia. Guys who value their intelligence as their prime trait, but at the end of the day are just high end smart. They, were all, fundamentally not as smart as her. At least the way she tells it.

So I am asking around, the chick who is hot, smart and knows it.

Negs worked alright, but sometimes I feel I am firebombing her with negs, because her ego rebounds so fucking fast, or she responded with "don't care"-- qualifying her sucks, because she assumes you already think she's the shit past her appearance. All the traits she posesses, personality wise, she already loves and thinks are the best. I have physical congruence with her, and she does qualify her self when I discuss appearances. But it's literally almost random with her.

So, how does one handle the girl who actually believes you are already in love with her minutes after talking to her?

crap. in retrospect. I think i did that and missed the bus.

Regardless, there will be other genius'. How do you deal with them? The chick's whose smarts may greatly outweigh even her HB8 - 10 looks? And knows it and thinks you know it?

Regiment · #2 (**permalink**) 10-26-2007, 08:50 AM

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So, how does one handle the girl who actually believes you are already in love with her minutes after talking to her?

You GFTOW.

Something tells me, you're not going forward, because you can't get past 'gaming' her.

Have you tried making a connection with her?
What's her social life like?

It is unimportant if she "is a genius" (oh! ah!)... she has attraction switches... flip enough of them ON, and it's on.

meanmrgrither · #3 (**permalink**) 10-26-2007, 09:37 AM

In general, I'm not asking to win this chick anymore, it's been three years and nothing has happened. It was shite timing on my part, because in retrospect, the first date we had she was launching IOI's like crazy, 24 hours later she was done with me. That much, I have pieced together. I understand nothing will most likely EVER happen, (I have a theory, that if I qual her for a reason she HATEs about herself though...)

Regardless, what do you do when the Ego is not centred on appearance?

TMM, and Qual, has a lot to do with liking a woman for "nontypical" reasons, they have men approach them ALL the time, and are bored of guys loving them for her appearance, they want a guy who does all the sexy attraction traits. You neg, and disqual, to show them that their appearance is "irrelevant" this displays preselection and challenge.

then, when you get to qual, she is ALSO used to guys liking her for her intelligence and personality traits? She can seduce guys on personality alone. You see, once she successfully is qualified by you, she already knows her traits that are positive, you AREN'T a challenge because you fell for the same reasons as every other guy who got past appearance. Your attraction work is done.

This situation is interesting, I am treating it as a case for future knowledge.

Johnny Soporno · #4 (**permalink**) 10-26-2007, 10:07 AM

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There's this one chick, she is soooo wrapped up in her own personality and appearance, that it isn't possible to qualify her.

Do you LIKE her? Is she your friend? If not, since you two have lots of positive compatibilities, YOU SHOULD BEFRIEND HER. Earn her friendship, trust, and support.

Friendships last MUCH longer, and play-out FAR better than 'romances' ever can, because 'romance' is based-in-fantasy. Reality has a nasty-habit of crashing in when you least desire it!

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For example "yeah, you're pretty smart," her: "I know."

Ok, so here it's clear she's being dismissive as a 'power-play'; this generally suggests to me that her EGO is far-weaker than it should be, based on what you've said about her.

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or "we have matching tastes in music, that's actually cool" her: "my taste is better."

Respond with: "I can hardly wait to find out" - (oral-sex double-entendre... it won't be missed)

Here again, she's posturing superiority - IF SHE TRULY FELT THAT WAY, she wouldn't have been so obnoxious as to state it. That was another power-play.

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honestly, all i've been able to do is hammer at her ego and rebuild her. I debate her for around 30 minutes, she FINALLY just stopped talking and muttered "i'm pretty."

I presume that was completely out-of-context, and you weren't debating her looks for 30 minutes?

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO KNOCK HER DOWN, instead of helping her to CONNECT YOU with HER FEELING BETTER ABOUT HERSELF?

Note: she is literally a genius, but so am I. All of her ex's have been, intelligentsia. Guys who value their intelligence as their prime trait, but at the end of the day are just high end smart. They, were all, fundamentally not as smart as her. At least the way she tells it.[/quote]

Another sign of her NOT being as confident as she would like you to believe.
(frankly, I'm a lapsed Triple-Niner/Promethean, so I'm VERY experienced with women like you're describing... and it sounds to me like WHAT SHE NEEDS is encouragement and affirmation from someone estimated-by-her as qualified and authoritative. - Demonstrate your APPROVAL of her and you're much better-off.)

Check out my signature-link below on Friends to Girlfriends for some further insights!

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

P.S. for the record, MOST of my long-term female friends are Mensa-or-better qualified, and I've slept with (and sleep with) most of them.

P.P.S. the girl napping next to me is both Mensa-qualified, and a professional pornstar (the raven-haired girl in the photos attached)

JoRocK · #5 (**permalink**) 10-27-2007, 08:12 AM

I had a chick like this once. Too smart for her own good. Try talking about guy stuff and turn the shit around her (Mirror her)
I.e, sports, mechanics, hands on work.
Nobody is smart. Smart is defined by what you know, no one knows everything therefore she is only smart at what she does.

If you were to build a computer, people would say you're smart, right? What if computers is your interest? Anything that interest you is a different world.

Turn it around on her and shut her up. Your value will soar (as she thinks she knows everything)

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