Qualifying Students

[Flash_hound]

Kind of sounds wrong but I am of the appropriate age to be qualifying Students (by that I mean college). (I've even heard people akin it to pulling teeth )

A lot of people (specifically girls) who are of my age group do not particularly have much going for them, so the good old, "What do you have going for you?" Doesn't work so well... (some people akin it to pulling teeth)

So I thought of this, and have tried it out a few times on AIM, with someone I knew (yeah I know not the best field test) but I thought I'd share it with you guys and see what the "experts" think.

Me: Why am I IMing you? (= to Why am I talking to you?)
Them: What?
Me: I'm sitting here talking to you, but what do you have to give me?
Them: *giggle, haha*
Me: I mean what do you have going for you?
Them: What?
Me: Can you tell me what's interesting about you, or what you have going for you in your life?
Them: Well I have my boobs...
Me: So all you have going for you is your boobs? (slight neg/ tease)
Them: *giggle*

If they don't get it at this point, or say something stupid, or whatever, you say this...

Me: I am only kidding, but it's an interesting thought isn't it, I think it's the bases of a lot of self confidence issues around people our age, that they don't really know what they have going for them, or who they are or what they are truly interested in.

This is a slight neg, and has the reaction of getting people to really think about their answer, so that you can qualify. It also shows off your deeper side (DHV?) and that you are interested and socially aware(?).

I don't know I am only a noob at this, but this came about kind of accidentally and I wasn't going to post until I had something truly good to post, so I'm just curious what you all have to say about this.

[MackAttack]

I think you can make qualification easy for them as well.

Stuff like "I love people with a good outlook on life and a great energy, I'm not sure yet but it seems you might be like that, too bad your not my type" (= neg), escalate kino as you neg.

That way they don't have to come up with anything, you deliver them qualification on a silver platter. You can also ask a normal qualification question, then revert to this if they can't come up with an answer.

p.s. Insert whatever qualities you WISH she had and she should start to express them in order to impress you.

[AshleyL]

Uhhhh...

By your above "tactics" I would have been like "riiiiiight..." and just blocked you.

Don't act like the girl you're talking to you owes you something. You need to be interested in her in the first place. Making her tell you why she's worth your time kinda kills it.

[TheVoid]

Yeah make it a leading question, if they cant respond to an open ended one..
Help them with their responses.

The way I understand it, the whole point of Qualifications is to make the girl feel shes earned you! It has to be something special or unique to her..

When you finally show interest? It aint gonna be superficial based on boobs..

Surely they must have some hobbies or special traits in there? Maybe it just takes more probing as they're not even aware of them? Or her click/peer groups doesnt think those traits are cool?

[logic10]

try to be more fluid and natural or they'll catch the canned lines...

the method should be your outline and not an excuse to throw out word for word materials