Push/pull text totally backfired

[mad_lion]

Dammit, i think i F**cked up:

Was texting this girl im dating back and forth, teasing her about how she thinks she's famous because her picture was in the newspaper one day, everything going good, and so I texted this to her jokingly: "I don't know if this is gonna work out... i mean ive dated celebrities b4, and i dont know if i can handle the paparazzi again"

and she replied "ok, well have a nice day then", and never replied again.
I'm guessing she had real bad experiences with boyfriends in the past...

I texted her back saying "it was only a joke, i actually really like you" but still no reply. Damn... cocky funny totally backfiring on me

[arbek]

I had something very similar to this, I say something like "I know we have not been hanging out for long but I think we should stop seeing each other" one of the line copy from here. Backfire on me.. but recover her very quickly with the help of lots of Kino and attraction, before the said comment. otherwise she would have bail..

I don't think she like you messing with her head... and playing mind game with her. People don't get the tone in text very well unlike in Real life IMO.

[Mowglii]

im so delicate with my text's with girls as the tone and context can get lost in translation..... i think u may have to move on from this chick

[young dubs]

is cocky funny congruent with how you acted in person? if you set a tone that you're a guy who likes to joke around, she'll relate that to your text messages as well. and use expressions like smiley faces and shit like that, to set the tone..

but also... don't switch frames like that... you texted her a funny joke, she took it to heart, or is possibly testing you... and you gave in, no she know's she's got you and there's no more hard to get, or chasing! Come back with somethin like "wow already letting the celebrity life get to your head, just cause I've never been in a movie doesn't make me any less of a person! ;-)"

or just ask yourself, do you really want to talk to someone who doesn't have a sense of humor???? what fun could they be! haha

keep your frame! set the tone with expressions... good luck!

Much Love,

Dubs

[Colin]

You're 'dating' this chick? Is she upset with you about something?

[ware_ru]

Emoticons on your friend in text. ;-)

[mad_lion]

thanks young dubs, maybe you right... but this chick is persian and ive heard bad stories about how they hot blooded and crazy sometimes, so I just wanted to explain b4 she slashed my tires or something. I do joke around when I hang out with her, though we've only hung out twice.

She just texted back 20 min ago: "I think ur really rushing things that need to move more slowly"

the only thing i texted her back after her 1st negative response was "I actually think ur cool and I hope we can hang out soon".

Hmm im thinking just texting back "ok?" and leaving it at that. what do you guys think?

[young dubs]

nah, you gotta frame it so that its not her makin this decision... rather you are, puttin you in control... she is gettin the feelin that you are pushin things and maybe coming on too heavy, you need a step back and a breather so as to not suffocate whatever you got... that usually happens in the beginnin, you get excited, like spending time with them, and next thing you know, you're with eachother all the time, and are always speaking, and its like they're takin over your life! step back, tell her you like spending time with her and talkin, but don't want to rush and jump into anything so quick, and would rather take more time to get to know her better.

this is something that rationalizes with them and is more on their level, and communicates that you're not eager at the first girl that is willin to act this way with you... ya diggg


much love,

dubs

[DirtyLove]

I agree with young dubs' earlier post about using smiley faces, exclamation marks etc. Too much is lost in translation and the tone of your negs/cocky funny can often be taken the wrong way. You may be texting this girl too much and need to cool off. If you know what flicks her switches (gigs, parties, exotic food etc.) text her to arrange a cool offer that she will be unable to resist. Then work the magic..!

[zacxpacx]

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