Awesome text message convo with a flakey girl...

[Crue]

Hey guys,

So yesterday I texted this girl who totally flaked out on me Monday night...

long story short She called me telling me she was downtown (I live downtown), So I told her we should meet up because I haven't seen her in ages, she agrees, I go out to meet her she dosen't pick up her phone or reply to my texts.

So, I walk around downtown for a little bit, meet up with my buddy who was in the clubs and go hang out with a few other girls.

The next day she calls me, but was I up super late the night before and was to damn tired to give a shit about my phone.

Anyways, I texted yesterday in the afternoon and it went a lil somethin' like this:

Me:"Hey I missed your call tuesday morning, how was monday night for ya?"
HB:"Oh fine thanks, I'm sorry!" (I assume shes sorry for being a flake)
Me:"Ha ha no worries we had a really sick time downtown, you should have met up you woulda had an awesome time."
HB:"Aw well next time! What are you doing tonight?"
Me:"I'm actually going to a party in Richmond"
HB:"Oh sick, i'm coming lol Jk." (Funny...Verrry funny...)
Me:"Don't worry you weren't invited :P"
HB:"Ouch"
Me:"Did it sting that bad?"
HB: Yes
Me:"Aw will a lollipop make you feel better?"
HB:"No"
Me:"What about McDonalds?"
HB:"Unfortunately that could probably work "
Me:"Really, a happy meal would satisfy you?"
HB:"Not a happy meal but a normal one Haha"
Me:"Nice but I only thought that the big kids eat those:P"
HB:"I am a big girl okay"
Me:"Well obviously, I mean you have graduated from happy meals."
HB:"Yes!!"
Me:"Haha your too fun to text with Chelsea, but on the other hand I am bored as hell waiting in Tim Hortons for a friend, what else am I gunna do"
HB: Eff you! Haha oh Troy I miss you.
Me:"You do dont ya? Well how about this I'm gunna give you a call sometime this weekend, you pick up your phone no excuses and we'll meet up."
HB:"Perfect "
Me:"Good Good, anyways I gotta head out to that party you weren't invited to. Take care Chelsea."
HB:"Bye love <3"

Yeah, so thats the scoop guys, give me any type of feedback... that would be sick. I have one thing that I'm uncertain about and that is if I'm in the friend zone or not... I dunno tell me what you guys think.

[TrueStory]

lol this is exactly the "maybe" girls I was talking about in my recent thread.

This never ends, endless conversations over SMS(text) and occasional meetups but never anything more. Ridiculous amounts of IOIs but any escalation falls flat.

I think, guy made a good point, these girls live and strive on being chased by guys. I wonder what guys do they chase?

[Crue]

I totally agree man, I think you got it spot on when you said
"these girls live and strive off being chased."

Like this girl is ridiculous, I was chasing her a few months ago and and she was super flakey so I just canned her, but recently (this past Monday) she calls me out of nowhere only to flake out... like what the fuck?

I'm in the same boat as you man I really just want to know what the hell to do, should I maybe show commitment, Disinterest, or just peace out with the whole situation.

[TrueStory]

Originally Posted by Crue

I totally agree man, I think you got it spot on when you said
"these girls live and strive off being chased."

Like this girl is ridiculous, I was chasing her a few months ago and and she was super flakey so I just canned her, but recently (this past Monday) she calls me out of nowhere only to flake out... like what the fuck?

I'm in the same boat as you man I really just want to know what the hell to do, should I maybe show commitment, Disinterest, or just peace out with the whole situation.

haha... yeah, it's because she wasn't getting her fix somewhere else.

I live with a girl-roommate, we're just friends, but she taught me many good things.

She has plethora of guys that call her and try to get her to come out. she flakes on them most of the time. Then these guys would pickup on the fact that she's NOT into them. so they stop calling.

What does she do? She goes and says "hmmmm Josh hasn't called me in a while, I am going to call him see if he wants to hang out" ....

So she calls Josh, and by some unknown force in the universe, other guys start calling her too. Who knows why it all happens simultaneously, so naturally she blows off Josh to hang out with better prospects (that buy her drinks).


I see this shit over and over and over and over again.


She knows about the game and community and we talk about this often. She hasn't yet figured out what makes a guy attractive. "She just knows". And these guys, are ones she usually has to chase.

[DeadEyeDick]

+1 x2 etc., etc.

The fact that she was flaky in the past should have told you something: She has the attention span of a fruit fly, and whatever has her attention at the moment is what she does.

Interesting how she latches onto the part of the conversation where you tease her about buying something for her/feeding her.

She has an appetite for being entertained by guys, but when it comes to showing up, she goes to the back of the class.

Flunk this one and move on to girls who actually want to meet.

[Crue]

Yeah,
I see what you mean and I totally want to just "flunk her" and get to going on new girls...

But its more like a personal challenge now.
Its not like Oneitis, its like a goal it WILL make me feel better...

I think I'm gunna give it one more shot and call her this weekend. If she flakes once more shes toast... If not I'll persue it to see if it can go any further....
What'd ya think?

[TrueStory]

Originally Posted by Crue

....
Its not like Oneitis, its like a goal it WILL make me feel better...
.....

As long as you don't lose your head doing it.

As long as you game other girls (and, sleeping with them )

As long as you don't pre-occupy yourself with HER and ONLY her...

As long as you don't do silly shit as buy her shit and chase her around...

......by all means.

[BigJayC]

in my experience, you gotta be a dick to chicks like that. Pure cocky funny, pushing away, jealousy plotlines, calling them little girls, making fun of them, and not taking shit from them. If they flake on you, tell them they can MAKE IT UP TO YOU when they get their shit together, but you only have time for people who make definite plans. As much as she said she was 'a big girl' she isn't...these chicks thrive off of validation, and they want it 10 times more when you don't give it to them (attraction??), but it's gotta be mixed reactions, sometimes you give her a bit, but a lot of the time you're taking away. Most of them are daddies girls and/or not that sexually experienced, even though they probably talk to a lot of guys. I dated a liquor pimp once who sounds exactly like this...i was waaay more cocky funny then, i tried taking a second crack at her and it went no where, until i ignored her 4 or so times in a row.

Do not call her. Wait for her to call or text you and ignore it, she'll keep coming back for that validation. Eventually respond with something cocky and funny