I am so fucking crap on the phone!

[theagx]

I day2'd a girl last Sat - iceskating. It was fun, although I didnt kino escalate much, so we only hugged and handheld. I tried to make EC and look for IOIs but there was not much of that going down.

Anyway, I just phoned her about a possible day3, and opening the convo, Im just so AWFUL. I say: "Hi, how are you?" like some geek stalker. Then, she said: "alright". THen I say: "you sure?" WTF IS THAT ABOUT? I wasnt ready to jump onto a topic, so I hover on the subject of her "being alright". WTF kinda AFC noob am I?

Anyway, I finally got settled after some random tangent questions to keep the convo going. I can't seemlessly jump to a topic. They seem out of the blue like Im randomly thinking them up on the spot, which I kinda am.

I wanted to build suspense as to the asking about a day3, but since I dont have SHIT to say, I jump straight to it, and nerded it up along the freaking way. MAN.

I have not a piece of phone game yet. Anyway, if this day3 goes ahead, Im gonna kino her pants off and try and escalate to a kissclose. If that flops then I will at least know where I stand and can move on. I feel like Ive invested so much time into this girl. Time and money. That day2 bill hit me the second I got a "hug goodbye". I walked away thinking: "I just bought her a bus pass for us both to get to the venue, I paid entry to iceskating, I bought most of our rounds (I asked her to buy us one), and what do I get? A grandmotherly hug."

Anyway, I need some phone game. Is anyone else a complete stumbling, fumbling, umming and ahhing, socially backward NERD on the phone? It was so cringeworthy. I guess I can look at it is: "if she still comes out with me even after that botched up phone call, that MUST be an IOI".

[sampanye]

You're new. Everyone makes mistakes early on. The point is to learn from them and move on.

Some people seem hopeless on the phone. My cousin is a great example. She's world champion in her chosen sport, she's in every dramatic production my university holds, she's the life of every party... but she can't use the phone! In fact, I had to call around to book things for her 21st party last year because she just couldn't do it!

As with everything, practice makes perfect. I SERIOUSLY recommend you call random businesses from the phone book and ask questions (then say, "I'll think about it" and hang up).


Oh, and next time, don't pay for everything for her unless you plan on paying for everything for the rest of the relationship.

Good luck!

[young dubs]

the phone is mainly for quick conversations, keep them reminded that you're interesting and funny and spontaneous... so cocky funny stuff on the phone works well...like "how are you? "alright" "just alright, listen next time I call you I want the most enthusiastic hello ever!...alllllllright....alright is ok if I offered you a government cheese sandwich, but I'm offerin you a buffet a love child!" ;-) be funny on the phone, otherwise those conversations die...if you want this to be a relationship, then you can spend hours on the phone with her, but early on, show her you have things to do, and places to be. Talk briefly, maybe make plans, call her to tell her about the craziest thing that just happend, how you saw her twin at the mall and thought it was her and ran up to her and pinched her sides only to have then turn around and be a very confused disgruntled stranger haha... you see where I'm goin with this....