wow, I screwed up...need help - The Attraction Forums

reborn512 · #1 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 08:54 AM

Friday I met a HB10, hit it off well. My dream girl for sure.
She was giving me mad IOI's. Number closed her.

Tuesday, I call her at 4:30pm...I had reason to believe she gave me a fake number so when I called I wasn't expecting her to pick up.
She did...I had nothing and stuttered like an idiot.

I even had to go through the whole, "who is this".
I met you at ....., after a couple of tries she remembered me and said oh ya...then said she didn't know many people with my name.

Horrible phone call and she ended it by saying she got off work at 7pm and could she call me back. I said fine.

I decided to text her an excuse, I just said that she caught me off guard because I thought I had called the wrong girl who I didn't want to talk to.
Probably a horrible decision in retrospect but its water under the bridge now.

So obviously she never called me back, and I wasn't expecting it anyway.

I was thinking about calling her today and acting like that never happened.
I have alot of fun things planned for the weekend and wanted to invite her out.

What should I do? How should I work this?
Thanks for your help in advance

secretasianman1 · #2 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 10:28 AM

In the future... Since she can't see you when you're on the phone, write down all the things you might say. Routines, C&F lines, DHV stories etc... Not sure this one can be saved, especially since she gave you the "who is this" Good luck.

reborn512 · #3 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 11:10 AM

This may be AFC, but...

My plan is to call her tonight. Act like that call never happened but say:

I enjoyed talking with her Friday night and was seeing what her plans were for the holiday.
Then tell her what I was doing and see if she wanted to come along.
Just how I phrase it is my problem...

secretasianman1 · #4 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 11:22 AM

I think you want to phrase it so that it seems that you are the fun, busy guy that hardly has time for anyone because you're so busy having a good time. "This weekend is going to be crazy" "Hey, I'm going to be at such and such place on Friday with my peeps and I think you should show up. It's going to be awesome" This and this is going on and its going to be so much fun.

Maybe you can incorporate something you talked about the last time you were together that you made a connection with her with to get her in that happy to see you state of mind. "That was a pretty amazing conversation about blah blah, do you really think that's true?"

IDK, just some ideas. I hope it works out!

CCarter · #5 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 12:03 PM

You are now playing within her frame and came across as needy when you texted her back trying to explain yourself. You need to switch it up and become more alpha and remember wither this works out or not, it doesn't validate who you are as a man.

Maybe play with some pre-selection and jealousy plotlines. I find these to be really powerful when in damage control. Just show that other women are into hanging out with you which in turn makes her want to hang out. I've used it with great success. Good Luck!

Lansing · #6 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 12:43 PM

Yeah, I have been there....

For the future, if she says "who is this" I don't give the quick answer.... Firstly, when I get a girl's number I will call her and make sure SHE saves my name in her phone (i.e. right after I get her number, almost everyone has Call Id these days).

If she is like "who is this" I will be playfull..... at most I will say my name but not explain where she met me, etc,etc...

reborn512 · #7 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 12:49 PM

That is the strangest thing...I think I called her phone in front of her that night...I think she even stored my number.

When I called she figured out who I was, but then said....I don't know many guys by your name (I have a common name)

Really strange.

I am more worried about what to do now? Should I not call / call. Should I text?

zanibar · #8 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 06:05 PM

how did it go?

CCarter · #9 (**permalink**) 07-02-2008, 11:15 PM

take deep breath man! step back and evaluate the situation. Judging by your posts, you coming off as needy and with my experiences on HB10s, once they even get a hint of neediness or that your of lower value, she'll NEXT you.

Step back, re-evaluate the situation, detach yourself from the outcome, be in the moment, and make your best move from there.

To me, the "Who's this?" question was a shit test, and you failed it.

Try texting. Use one of the generic texts in the "Big list of Text Messages" on page 24.

Successful with this girl or not, you should learn a lot from this experience.

reborn512 · #10 (**permalink**) 07-03-2008, 07:14 AM

Left a message last night.
Said I had plans for the holiday and was just seeing what she was doing.
Told her what I was doing and said call me if you want to come along.

She never called me back.

Looks like I butchered this one, time to move on to the next.