Can't tell if this girl just wants validation...?

[NumbaOneDesi]

So, we met like `1.5 month ago or something. Maybe just a month ago... through mutual friends. Well, we were bored hanging out with some people so I bounced with her to this bar(pretty chill didnt card me) but her friends came too.

We sat alone on a couch, talked for a while, lots of kino no kiss though( I Just met you! lawlz) I got her number.


She then begins to like flake on texts n stuff, its all good. She then sends me "im down to be friends but nothing else" and i said "wow, relax. i just thought you were a sweet girl and wanted to get to know you" we dont talk for a week but out of n owhere she invite me to a party... Well a bunch of drama happened and my friend and I didnt get in and almost caused a fight with the host of the party aka her friend LOL..

We pretty much stopped talkin after that, even though she called me crying that night apologizing or some crap.


She texted me out of no where last week and i just replied "who is this?" and for once, she responded right away! We talked a little on text, and thats it.


She called me last night at 1 am, sounding quite drunk but I was sleepy as hell so I was in bed already. I hung up on her though, because I was like "hey" when she was full of high energy and she said "omg r u depressed or bored jeeze' and i didnt feel like explaining myself..


ANYWAYS.. is this girl just playing validation games? She was pretty attracted to me the first night we met/hung out. Im not really trying at all with her since ive been meeting new women, but with her body.. I'd hate to pass it up! haha.


and I put this here because it sounds exactly like a game!

[Lone Wolf 20]

If I were you I would ignore her and not show her an attraction or validation. Look at it this way...she doesn't have anyone at the moment so she's calling a guy who KNOWS will answer and think she has wrapped around her finger.

Show her that's not true and don't really show too much interest in her. It sounds like she's playing games, so play games back.

[NumbaOneDesi]

Originally Posted by Lone Wolf 20

If I were you I would ignore her and not show her an attraction or validation. Look at it this way...she doesn't have anyone at the moment so she's calling a guy who KNOWS will answer and think she has wrapped around her finger.

Show her that's not true and don't really show too much interest in her. It sounds like she's playing games, so play games back.

Yeah, that's what I think too. That's why I don't text or call her anymore, haha. It's been like this for a while. I hear she IS pretty hard to get though.

[NumbaOneDesi]

Nevermind, I figured it out.


...She was hanging out with my ex-gf who I've talked about getting back together with, at a club or bar...I saw the pictures on Facebook...


sigh girls are so lame sometimes haha

[Colin]

Girls are always looking for validation.

I think she would have been down to hook-up. If you would have gotten into that party it probably would have happened.

You played the "friend" comment well. Girls say that shit sometimes, and want to know where you're coming from. Stuff like that shouldn't have to be said though, not like that. this whole process is about having a flow that you are setting a pace for. Her rational mind is gonna say one thing and her emotional mind something else.

I think she could probably still be down, but you have to set up the right opportunity for things to "just happen" . Things could get kinda sloppy though with the ex in the picture.

[NumbaOneDesi]

Originally Posted by Colin

Girls are always looking for validation.

I think she would have been down to hook-up. If you would have gotten into that party it probably would have happened.

You played the "friend" comment well. Girls say that shit sometimes, and want to know where you're coming from. Stuff like that shouldn't have to be said though, not like that. this whole process is about having a flow that you are setting a pace for. Her rational mind is gonna say one thing and her emotional mind something else.

I think she could probably still be down, but you have to set up the right opportunity for things to "just happen" . Things could get kinda sloppy though with the ex in the picture.

Yeah, she was down that night. But they wouldn't let my friend in, and I decided I was bored so we t ried to start a fight with like a 2 on 5 haha. She was like "im sorry ill call you when Im done here" and I said "fuck that, later"

I think it was pretty disrespectful if she didnt want to leave the party to hang out with me, when her friends were rude like that to me. So i was over it, and not going to lower myself by waiting on her call to hang out.


Anyways...Yeah..We'll see. Not a big deal haha.