alright, when i started this thread, I was really tired, so i didnt want to write the full report out.
But check this out..
What to do to kill the dreaded AA, or Fear of Rejection.
i used to have a small voice in my head telling me not to go over to a group and talk to em. I should stand with my back on the wall and watch everyone else have a good time.. Someone is BOUND to notice me, right ?
Maybe if i hold my drink in front of my chest, and act tough... Yeah, that will get the girls attention...Right??
I got it, Maybe if i put my free hand in my pocket and pretend not to be interested .. Yeah.. THats gonna work!
Gentlemen, what you are going through, and what you are demonstrating is what i like to call AFC pose. I've opened up sets asking,
"Hey, lemme ask you all something, What do you think of the guy standing over there with his hand in his pocket? "(point to AFC guy in corner)
QUOTE!! from girls!!! "That guy looks LAME! he doesnt look fun at all"
the girls have already judged you, and they dont even know you.. THey can be vicious cant they.. well, its ur JOB
NOT to be that GUY! If you wanna be taken seriously as a pick-up artist , I know i do, you need to tear down the wall that is fear of rejection.
I know what youre thinking, THe berlin wall came down easier than this shit.. Well, im not gonna lie.. Its gonna take a whole lot of INNERGAME for you to do this..
Are you CONFIDENT.. or are you FAKING IT!
when you walk into the club, do you honestly believe that there is NO ONE in there better than you? or do you walk in there trying to put yourself on everyone elses level?
I'm Not the prettiest, Im not the most muscular, Im not the richest, nor the toughest.. But one thing that sets me apart from all the others is, Im a FUCK LOAD of fun, i can make you laugh, and i believe in myself WHOLE HEARTEDLY that i can have ANY FUCKING WOMAN I WANT!! ANY ONE OF EM!
If you can adopt this whole IDEA as your own, let me tell you one thing.. IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Fear of REJECTION is going to be something you laugh at your AFC friends about!
Here, Let me take you through this STEP BY STEP.. I know that not all of you can really change your way of life in one night.. Unless youre a fucking bad ass (yes thats a challenge) so im gonna break this down as best as i was able to do it and have it change my life.
Step one... Night One.. (from
neil strauss'
rules of the game 'Wall exercise'...)
Put your back against a wall at your house.. Make sure your butt, shoulders , head, and heels touch the wall.. Chin up, chest out, shoulders back. Get used to this pose because we're gonna be in this position for the rest of the night, but without the use of a wall. Practice walking around with that type of body language.. pretend the wall is behind you the entire time and your body parts that i mentioned have to be touching at all times. (End
neil strauss exercise..) from this point forward, its all HUMORUS all the time.
Brush your teeth, whiten em, and make sure your smile is worthy of a colgate commercial. Tonight, is the night you understand how important body language and a smile is.
From the moment that you leave your house, your smile should be glued to your face.. your posture should be PROUD. as soon as you get to the club door, make small talk with the bouncer while your inline waiting.
Talk to him, hes not just a guy that was rejected by the NFL for his steroid problem.. hes a man with feelings. Tell him something like
"Hey, You know what, i know you probably dont hear this often, but thanks for the job you do, Youre in charge of alot of peoples safety, and I appreciate it."
You'll be surprised how fast his heart melts into your hands..Catch his name, and remember it.. Tell him yours.. from now on, refer to him on a first name basis.. He'll think you all have known eachother for years. Yeah, i know, YOure not trying to sarge the bouncer, but believe me, having him on your side will be a benefit in case something should go down.
and you know what, you've made your first approach of the night.. Granted, you dont want to fuck him, but you made a new friend.. and better yet, a new friend in a position of power. Lets face it, you can never have too many of those.
Say hi to all the staff, like if you have known them for years, and havent seen em in a long time.. bouncers, waitresses, bartenders, shot girls, EVERYONE.. all the
hired guns should be your friends by the end of the night. THis will DHV to the entire club. The guy can make friends , thats a good trait to have.
alright, now check this out. Time for some fun. Walk around the club with the body position we talked about earlier, Chin up, chest out shoulders back, and SMILE!
Just walk around and PAY ATTENTION to all the girls that are going to give you eye contact.. if youre doing it right, you should be getting attention from EVERYONE..
Guys want to be you, girls want to be WITH you. if youre doing it right, you'll get smiles from women because smiling is contagious. Give em eye contact as you pass by, Just a glance.. dont be looking at em all creepy like.. its more of a
"Hey.. Youre cute, but im Cuter" Type of look..
You have made one round in the club saying hi to all the
hired guns as you walk by, because they're your new friends remember, so check on em for the rest of the night..
You're probably already noticing that you recieved tons of looks from women as you walked by with confidence and swagger.. You didnt make an approach, but they know who the hell you are now. stay at base for a while, chat it up with a bartender about how his/ her night is going.. make fun of people together (if its a girl bartender, criticize how another HB10 is dressed) GIRLS LOVE THIS SHIT..
"Oh My god.. I cant believe she came out in public like that"
Ok, get your ass up and walk around again, Once again, same body language and smile as before..
THIS TIME, every girl that gives you Eye contact, give her a wink. (if your smile is on your face like it should be, she'll smile) if she gives you an IOI dont stop to talk to her.. ONE STEP AT A TIME JUNIOR!
just casually walk by and wink and smile at all the girls who are now paying attention to you. BUT DONT STOP!!!
you'll realize my reason behind my madness at the end of DAY 1. i know youre probably telling yourself... BUT THE IOI's are there.. i should open and close... NO YOU SHOULDNT!
I hope youre having a good time so far.. cause youre getting attention, looks, smiles, and youre not doing anything that will get you rejected.. YES.. you are in fact, HAVING YOUR CAKE and EATING IT TOO.
Its a great feeling isnt it.
okay, by now you have walked around, made new friends, and have exhibited confidence to the entire club. now go home.. If you timed it correctly, it should be around 1'ish anyway. just go home... your done with day one.. congrats.. go watch some porn, post some field reports and go to sleep..
Your mind is fucking with you right now.. "BUT I DIDNT EVEN OPEN A SET!!!!! WHAT THE FUCK... what type of advice is this?! All the IOI's were there and im GOING HOME???"
Yep..
heres the fucked up part.. You know that fear we were talking about earlier... i kind of put it on the back burner for a little bit, right?
Tonight you didnt FEAR the approach.. YOU WANTED IT!!! you wanted to embrace it because all the signals were there!!!the girls gave you IOI's , the smiles, and everything you needed to feel comfortable, but (if you did what i said) You DIDNT APPROACH.
youre thinking.. JESUS... I CAN NOT BELIEVE I DID NOT APPROACH A SINGLE WOMAN OR SET TONIGHT>.. but i'll tell you what, this shit is gonna make you want to go out tomorrow thats for sure..
and thats when i'll give you Day 2... (this whole process will take the weekend)
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No fear in Opening/approach... 
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