Myspace pimpin... what do I say to this - The Attraction Forums

JohnAnthony · #1 (**permalink**) 08-29-2008, 01:55 PM

I posted a while ago about how I drove to Long Beach to meet a girl(girl #1) and she passed out before we got there. Well it didn't pan out and I lost interest. Her roomate (roomate girl) caught my attention and we've been messaging back and forth on Myspace since. The other day a friend and I went out to LBC to party and she was in NorCal. Apparently girl number 1 told roomate girl that we came by and this is what she sent me.

"heyy what up buddy! I heard you guys stopped by the other night."

What is my response? Obviously I'm trying to keep it flirty and go some were with it, and since I'm new to myspace game and a new PUA in general, I'm still thinking in the AFC frame of mind. I need guidance on what to say back that will continue the cycle.

Autoace · #2 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 07:29 AM

Just message her back, "I did not know that we are buddies, but I am flattered".

DO NOT ask her where she was.

Mungojerry · #3 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Autoace

Just message her back, "I did not know that we are buddies, but I am flattered".

DO NOT ask her where she was.

That seems unnecessarily mean. Don't punish her for being nice to you.

JohnAnthony · #4 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 10:24 AM

I have the reputation of being a nice guy. Although I'm trying to shake that reputation somewhat I am not an asshole. I think something like this should work.

"Yeah, we were there and you were not! Lame!" <<<<<<< AFC!!!

Now that I look at this. It screams AFC. I need a mentor... lol

Mungojerry · #5 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 11:29 AM

That seems fine. Just make sure you tease her a bit every so often in subsequent message and she'll eat it up.

It's ok to be nice, so long as you don't fawn over her, don't supplicate and don't put her on a pedestal. Your message doesn't do any other those things. It just shows you like her in a gentle, off hand way and probably put a smile on her face. Of course, it's not going to make her need to go to wash her panties three or four times a day, but you can drop more powerful attraction techniques into other messages.

The problem so many guys on this forum seem to have is that they think every line they say online needs to be cocky/funny. It doesn't. In fact it will do you more harm than good. Cocky/funny is a VERY powerful attraction technique... but it's best used as a spice, not as the meat of your interaction.

Autoace · #6 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 05:03 PM

I think that his response of 'you were not' WOULD scream AFC. That is the response she is looking for. If you want to build rapport with girls you meet online you have to act OPPOSITE of what she would expect. Think of what most guys would say and then do the opposite. How else will you get her to seek validation from you through communication which does not include ANYTHING other than written messages.

She cannot see body language, hear the tone of your voice, etc....and this is the reason that you have to say something extreme in order to get her attention and make her say, 'Why would he say that?'

She will not get offended, and if you make her wonder why you said something like that, she will ask you. You can always fall back on most girls not being able to take a joke. This way you can make her try to convince you that she is different.

If you were together in person, you could most definitely say, 'Yeah, we were there and you weren't' because she would pick up your playfullness through the above mentioned forms of communication which we use to our advantage.

In the case of gaming online though, I think it is of high importance to not say something that she will take out of context; which is in this case thinking that you are validating yourself to her and sounding AFC, when actually you are not.

Lastly - Mungojerry I am not knocking you for what works for you but I do disagree with you. Please give me an example of why being an ass online will do more harm than good.

young dubs · #7 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Autoace

Lastly - Mungojerry I am not knocking you for what works for you but I do disagree with you. Please give me an example of why being an ass online will do more harm than good.

because there is no expression, no way to tell how you're sayin it... remember somewhere upwards of 85% of communication is non-verbal (tone, body language, expressoin, etc..)

then if you haven't met the person and they have no other impression of you, they're just gonna think you're an ass (harmful) instead of someone funny (good)

I agree with mungojerry's previous posts as well, as to how to approach this situation and such... good luck

Much Love,

Dubs

Autoace · #8 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 09:35 PM

I still disagree, as I have met up with girls that I meet on Myspace after using this approach.

And perhaps this is just me, but as women tend to gravitate towards asshole guys, I would rather be viewed as an asshole than a guy who cares to much about what people think of him to always be cautious and courteous about what he says.

Ok fine, if you have to, then add a fucking wink after you make an asshole comment. ONLY if you have to. I don't usually, but that is because I like being the asshole.

Believe me it works.

Autoace · #9 (**permalink**) 08-30-2008, 09:43 PM

Thoughts on Transition to Natural Game

Go to that thread. Discusses transitioning to a more natural game by simply speaking your mind and having a 'nothing to prove' attitude. Voted 'best of' by Truestory.

Whether you guys agree with me or not, no hard feelings regarding our disagreements, and best of luck!

-AA-

Mungojerry · #10 (**permalink**) 08-31-2008, 01:39 PM

No problem with you disagreeing - that makes things more fun!

The best I can say is that I've tried lines like the one you suggested during literally thousands of online interactions and I've not had great results from them. Sure they've not been 100% interaction killers, I've found they work for me on some occasions, but on balance I've done better conveying attraction in other ways.

I agree with you to the extent that conveying some 'asshole' traits is one way of generating attraction - I also certainly agree that having a nothing to prove attitude is a good thing.

However, the thing I've found is that when you follow an IoI from her with a IoD from you (online at least) the interaction goes more stale more often than otherwise. Also I disagree that conveying interest her is a bad thing - as per the reasons in my posts above.