She won't give you her number but will accept your friendship request...?

[Grangehill]

Opened,isolated, comfort built.......then the mistake of asking for her number in a club ('That's a bit cheesy isn't it?') I'm told to add her to facebook, and a day or so later she accepts my friendship request.

I've added a message to the request which followed up on some banter from the night. However, her acceptance did not include any such response to the message.

Where do I go from here? I'd really appreciate any ideas. Momentum is dying, time is running out!

[Curt]

Wait, she told you to go and add her on Facebook? Was this after you asked for the number? If so, she probably was shit testing you to see exactly what you would accept in place of the number. She might have used that to let you off easy.

If you ask for a girl's number and she tells you to add her on Facebook instead, you better have a damn good response waiting to make adding her on facebook seem like a silly idea. You want the number, not a +1 to your friend count.

Hope this helps.

[Grangehill]

Ashamedly, I never thought of it like that. That's very helpful.

What would also be really useful is some suggestions as to what to put now.

She did ask me to add her AFTER I'd asked for her number (her sh*t test response being....'My number? That's a bit cheesy isn't it?)

Having sent a friendship request with a message and getting an acceptance but no response to my message (not entirely concerned as it wasn't offering her a question to answer) I'm now a bit stuck as to what to do.

I decided to keep momentum up and myself front of mind, I added her two less attractive friends from Saturday night who I had also spoken to - the 'mother goose' of the group taking kindly to me especially after some great cold reading.

My facebook profile is a very tight bit of self-marketing, so my thoughts are having given visibility of this to all three, I will be brought up in conversation in a positive light.

This buys me a bit of time before I have to make my next move.

But what is it?

What sort of facebook message could I send? Or do I banter the less good mate on her own wall?

I'll add in that she has left her email address on her profile aswell which is another line of communication.

Any further advice would be phenomenal.

[Curt]

Good, glad I could help . It's always good to have another set of eyes look at the situation. Honestly, I can't tell you how many times that this has happened to me haha.

I'm just starting with this bit too, so I'm no expert. But, I think your best bet right now is to meet them out again like you did the first time. You've come off as a bit "needy" and you need to undo that. Sending message after message is just going to strengthen that image. So, I would forget about sending the main girl a new message all together. You want them to come to you, not the other way around.

Oh, and shoot me a PM... I rarely check this forum.

[ooranos]

Yeah, it was a shit test. Just plow and get the number, or eject if you can't.

You do not want to be another orbiter chode posting on her wall, "Cute pics sexy". Those guys are never going to fuck her.

And, if you are friends with her online, your still going to have to get the number anyway, so your just adding an extra step. An extra step that shows weakness and she is more likely to decline.

You should plow and get the number. Then call it there. I say, "I'm going to call you, so now you have my number. I never pick up numbers I don't recognize." There you go.

[FDW]

What? Getting her number is cheesy?

Wtf? What a fucking weirdo, that's not cheesy at all