Did I neg too much here? (new to this online stuff)

[Mowglii]

not much of a neg..... don't do online negs though they can be misread so easily as insults. The odd's are massive on pulling this round by her response, hehe i like those odds

[Trixx]

Thanks for the responses, ya I guess what happened is the lack of tone of voice made it seem insulting.. will have to try the smilies and such to give it some context. Im gonna check around for some better openers and transitions into further convo.

[GoTron]

I agree that maybe the opener was a little bit off-putting, but whatever you got a response. Opener was completely successful as far as I'm concerned.

The problem afterwards is that as soon as she put up the bitch shield, you got pretty defensive. Sounds like you were trying to justify what you said. Forget the fact that she accused you of judging her or what not. Ignore the comment next time and move onto something else.

[Trixx]

ok, so a better response would have been something that jumped into a question about something from her profile etc etc

[Mungojerry]

Me (opener):Shame, I was gonna ask for advice on this treehouse I was looking into buying, guess I'm gonna have to look elsewhere, plus you seem a little too professional and business-lady like to help me out on the purchase.

Seems a lame opener, it got a response but only just! Be more positive and/or create more intrigue. Thousands of examples on the forum.

Her:yup totally but just so you know i did take law and can do closings haha maybe you shouldnt judge before u speak with someone or else they would wanna help u out [TEST 1] other then that have fun [TEST 2] hahaha

All the "haha's" are IoIs. However, this is combined with IODs/tests to see if you are cool or a dumbass. She is tending towards the dumbass interpretation, but the door isn't completely closed. She tested you because you came off as lame with your opener.

Me: oh ok, so when i'm ready to close I will give you a call and you can help me out, if I didnt already ruin that by 'judging' you your profile makes you seem like you got everything all figured out, just trying to find out what you do for fun when your not workin.

The stuff in bold is ALL whiny and AFC. It's communicating that her response has rattled you.

Maybe you could have said

"Come on, it's fun to judge . I've actually got another judgement about you. The answer might surprise you.

So [Insert random funny UNRELATED question concerning her profile]"

Her:lol hmm u wish i dont help people who judge when not even talking to the person have fun with ur buying hope u get a good one bye

You failed her tests. She now wants you to go away. Obviously.

You can pull it back from here, but it would be difficult.

Me:I hope thats a joke, just figured you'd be able to have a little fun and joke around but you seem to be takin this to heart a little, well have fun closin ur deals.

[Trixx]

Originally Posted by Mungojerry

Seems a lame opener, it got a response but only just! Be more positive and/or create more intrigue. Thousands of examples on the forum.



All the "haha's" are IoIs. However, this is combined with IODs/tests to see if you are cool or a dumbass. She is tending towards the dumbass interpretation, but the door isn't completely closed. She tested you because you came off as lame with your opener.



The stuff in bold is ALL whiny and AFC. It's communicating that her response has rattled you.

Maybe you could have said

"Come on, it's fun to judge . I've actually got another judgement about you. The answer might surprise you.

So [Insert random funny UNRELATED question concerning her profile]"



You failed her tests. She now wants you to go away. Obviously.

You can pull it back from here, but it would be difficult.

I appreciate this response alot cause it really broke down where I went wrong. I can learn from this. Thanks man.