The 6th Rule of Folsom Method is:
Timing is Everything
This is the one rule I don't want to publish, because I'm bummed that other guys will start to use it. But the method is incomplete without this piece.
So here's how this works.
First, when you email a girl online, understand that an attractive girl will receive five or ten emails a DAY, or more. If your email isn't read by her within a day or two, you'll probably never hear from her again. The entire attraction phase hinges on getting through the noise that all the other guys are generating. Here's how to do this.
Saturday and Sunday morning are the best days to email.
When you send mails on Saturday and Sunday morning, you will hit the inboxes of the girls who are spending Friday and Saturday night looking for guys on the internet. If a girl is trolling Match on Saturday night at 10pm, she is GOOD TO GO. When you email girls on a Wednesday afternoon, two things are likely to happen:
- your email gets lost in the pile, and by the time your lonely target logs in on Friday night, you're buried.
- your target has a boring job and she spends all day trolling Match. She isn't really available - she's just bored at work.
Any girl who spends her weekend on Yahoo Personals is 110% ready to meet someone new.
When it comes to responding to emails, you can bend the rules, a *little.* If she's replied once, she's interested. But beware of getting lost in the pile.
Forward those emails FOO!
Go and get a gmail account. Set up your gmail account to forward responses to your personal ad. This is the greatest thing ever. Here's why:
- It allows you to read your responses without logging in. Nothing says "desperate" like a guy who logs onto Match twice a day (or more!) Remember, your targets can track how much you're on.
- By replying to the email, you can reply to your target without logging in.
- If you work in an office, it allows you to game girls and get your work done at the same time. Why waste time in a bar?
Respond Slowly
Cast a wide net, and take your time to respond. If you reply to her response the next day, you look desperate. I've generally found that the hotter the girl, the longer you should take between responses. I once made a girl wait FOUR MONTHS to meet me. She was really hot, and she wouldn't admit to living with her boyfriend, but my boyfriend radar went off (I was right.) So I took my sweet time getting the ball rolling, to be sure she wasn't just an attention whore. She kicked him out the same week I finally let her meet me. Did I have an effect? What do
you think?
Respond Quickly
If you're on Match, and she replies to your email immediately, do the same. She's online RIGHT NOW, and this is a great opportunity to start chatting. Give her your full attention, and focus on getting the digits withing five or ten minutes of chatting.
Know When to Cut Bait
Based on the woman's value, decide up front how much time you will give her. Then stick to it. Everyone is different, and some women will be worth more investment than others.
I mentioned that I made one girl wait four months to meet me. This is an exceptionally long time, but I didn't believe her story about the guy she lived with. She said he was just a friend, but I had my suspicions. Though it was four months, I was investing very VERY little time. I would send three or four text messages a MONTH, and we would talk on the phone every couple of weeks. That's the RIGHT way to do it. A little bit of attention, spread out across a wide net, yields the best results.
Years earlier I did it the WRONG way, and I know a lot of you guys have too. I'd managed to attract a ten, but she turned me down when I asked for the digits. At that point I should have blew her off. Instead I continued to chat, and felt like I was her therapist. Eventually she said she met a new guy and started dating - I'm fairly certain he was there all along, and she was just lonely.
Be Busy on the Weekend
You may be looking for that lonely ten who's looking for love online, but you don't want to BE that lonely guy who's doing the same. So *don't* be anywhere near a computer on Friday or Saturday night. If she calls, ignore it. Responding to her txt msgs is OK to an extent. If you find yourself sitting there at 10pm on a Saturday chatting with your target online, she'll lose all respect for you.
3 Date Rule
The three date rule still applies. Just because you're putting YOURSELF in The Friends Zone doesn't mean you're going to be a eunuch. One of my good friends and I were discussing this recently. She told me that she's actually INSULTED when a guy doesn't make a move on her. She said that she loses respect for him.
Another friend of mine is a handsome guy, but he doesn't do well with cute girls. Whenever he's around a cute girl, he'll stare at her boobs, and you can tell he's infatuated with her looks. Girls are SO good at reading a guy, and that's why my friend fails to attract. He telegraphs his infatuation with nothing more than a look. Don't
say you are disinterested in the target;
express your disinterest with body language, negs, and disqualification. The hotter she is, the more you'll have to mix it up.
When you meet, plan your time together so that you have an opportunity to make the move. For instance, a ten once invited me out to get coffee. I turned her down, because there was no escalation path. If you're sitting in a coffee shop, how do you get her alone? It's easier to spend time with a ten alone when she believes you're not out to make a move on her. Aren't tens a p.i.t.a?
They don't want to spend time with anyone who might make a move on them, yet they're insulted when a guy spends time with them and DOESN'T make a move. Tens are a tricky target!
Since the three date rule is in full effect, you might just get blown out the first time you meet. But is this different than ANY date? There are two possibilities when you first meet:
- You start the
physical escalation at a very low level, progress consistently, and the meeting goes just like a "real" date.
- She pulls the "I have a boyfriend card." Don't argue with her. Just lower the
kino intensity. If you're doing everything right, you'd be surprised how little the "boyfriend card" is played.
If she's genuinely comfortable with you, and there's a real attraction, she's not going to freak if you make a move. In fact she might just look down on you if you DON'T.
If you have the opportunity to F-Close in the first or 2nd date, I'd pass on it personally. That's a sure fire path to buyer's remorse. If you get close to it, pull back BEFORE she does, and she'll respect you for your self-control. As long as B.R. isn't in full effect, she'll see you again, at which point you can step it up again.
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