Help me decide my life

Khanman · #1 (**permalink**) 08-08-2008, 11:44 PM

Alright i cannot decide on what to do with my life so basically im gonna outline whats going on and sense i need a completely outside opinion to help me decide i'm gonna hope that one of you can do it. I hope anyone doesn't think im just being a bitch and complaining about life i honestly and stuck in the middle and need advice.

background: i graduated 18 out of 500+ in high school so learning is no problem. finished a year of college and about to start my second. i like people and am majoring in business but i dont want a desk job i want to open a restauarant and i hate wasting time and in my head i dont need college to do this it can be all learned on the job and it can. the only reason i went to college in the first place is because its the thing to do after high school and everyone says im smart so why not do it. right now i work part time retail and part time bartender. i honestly want to drop out of school and just work and the only thing stopping me is society, i feel like if i dont go to school like im pissing my life away and also my dad would fucking go crazy if i stopped(even though i pay for my own tuition/books/car/gas basically everything but the roof over my head). so he doesnt pay for anything why care what he says right? i live at home just me my mom and sister, my dad works out of town and comes home when he can but pays for all the bills and my mom and dad have fought for as long as i can remember. for the longest he told my mom that when i graduate(im the youngest) he was leaving for good but he didnt and its been a year. this past summer they have fought more than ever before. the only thing i want to do in life besides open my own restaurant is train to be a mma fighter. im small as shit but its where my passion is and i love it. if i dont go to school i can get one 9-5 job at a bank so i can finally have enough money to take classes and a set schedule so that i can actually go to enough classes to learn what i want to learn and become a fighter.

Decision:
1) stay in school, which i hate and find completely useless for my personal life not for others, work 2 jobs to afford to pay for school and my car and hope my family stays together............or
2) pause my education, get a bank job that i can work full time at 9-5 mon-fri and take mma classes at night and try and be a fighter BUT possibly cause my dad to finally leave my mom(which no way she can afford the house/bills alone) so i would have to hault extra expenses(mma classes/if i move out) to help her survive

Yeah i know i can get a bank job now that will offer tuition reimbursement and then work there part time adn still go to school but i wouldnt have enough free time or the will to go to mma classes plus i dont know if the few hours as a part timer would even be enough to support my current bills

Alright i need your help should i go to school and suffer so that my family will hopefully stay together or go after my own dreams and do what i want to do in life.
Again i dont want to sound like a little bitch complaining about my problems i just want you to know the whole stories to help me make a good decision. any opinions will help. thanks

BigDuke6 · #2 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 12:09 AM

Stay in school. Get good in accounting. You're going to need it.

Work on your social skills while in college. Sarge. Get laid. It's a unique opportunity which won't happen again. The working world sucks compared to student life. You'll think back on these years with fondness for the rest of your life.

Get a management position in a restaurant for a while and decide whether you have what it takes. My first job (I was 16) was being a busboy in a Chinese restaurant. Hardest job I've ever had. The work is grueling and the hours suck.