Dating advice on Yahoo written by idiots

[Crpyguy]

Here are four of the worst dating offenses made by single women:
1. Getting lazy about love
Nancy Slotnick, dating coach and author of the book "Turn Your Cablight On -- Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less" claims that you can't expect love to find you these days.
Many people don't make an effort to date and wonder why they're still single.
Many people don't make an effort to date and wonder why they're still single. She recommends spending at least 15 hours a week looking for love like you would look for a new job. She recommends networking by going to events, online dating, and do whatever it might take to meet someone special.
2. Giving off the wrong dating signals
Many smart and successful women think they intimidate single men. But Slotnick thinks the opposite is true. "Men actually like successful single women. They just don't always know that these women are interested in them." Women should give off the right signals and use body language to show interest. For example, if you're at a bar, stand next to the single man you find attractive and smile at him. At the same time, don't overdo it. Make sure you're smiling and not staring!
3. Listening to words before actions
My good friend and dating coach Andrea Syrtash always reminds me that men especially speak with actions before their words. Sure, he said he would call you next week, but did he? He talked about how fun it would be to go away together for the weekend, but did he make plans with you? Pay close attention to how your date acts versus what he says. The language of behavior says it all!
4. Sticking with cyber-communication
Most of us have heard that countless couples have been formed through online dating. At a wedding, I even heard a couple thank an online dating site in their vows! While I credit the Web for producing countless love matches, technology can often put too many screens up between us. We develop superficial relationships over text, instant messenging, and email. After getting comfortable with someone online, get past the initial stage of dating and lay off the gadgets a bit! Make time to hang out in person to really get to know someone -- not just the persona he presents online or on the phone.

Wrong Wrong Wrong and Wrong

The real top 4 mistakes women make

1. Being fat
2. Not having big boobs
3. Having your period
4. Saying "Fuck off loser" to the 30,000 guys that hit on you every day.


The study conducted in my imagination strongly suppots these conclusions.

[Crpyguy]

also
Being old
Having Kids

This article is clearly written by a person living in their own frame and not conducting a large scale survey to support their claims, and also listening to what men say as opposed to what they actually do.

That's why I admire the PUA community, you actually go out 4x a week and test your theories as opposed to listening to Offspring lyrics and just making shit up.

[True Pimp]

Most of the Yahoo! Dating advice is written by men and is decent, but yeah I read this same article by this chick and found it to be a pile of rubbish.

[freezer]

ha yeah it's rubbish but your top four mistakes women make isn't much better

[Psilite]

Originally Posted by Crpyguy

1. Getting lazy about love
Nancy Slotnick, dating coach and author of the book "Turn Your Cablight On -- Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less" claims that you can't expect love to find you these days.
Many people don't make an effort to date and wonder why they're still single.
Many people don't make an effort to date and wonder why they're still single. She recommends spending at least 15 hours a week looking for love like you would look for a new job. She recommends networking by going to events, online dating, and do whatever it might take to meet someone special.

It's not laziness, it's just that not every guy out there knows what we know and thinks a girl will tell him to "fuck off" if they approach her. That's why they might think girls need to find the guys.

Originally Posted by Crpyguy

2. Giving off the wrong dating signals
Many smart and successful women think they intimidate single men. But Slotnick thinks the opposite is true. "Men actually like successful single women. They just don't always know that these women are interested in them." Women should give off the right signals and use body language to show interest. For example, if you're at a bar, stand next to the single man you find attractive and smile at him. At the same time, don't overdo it. Make sure you're smiling and not staring!

I think the writer is really underestimating the tactics girls use (or doesn't know too much about girls). Girls get raised knowing this and talk to each other about this when they hang out. A girl would NOT give you IODs if you're turning them on or they're being attracted UNLESS they're shit testing you.

Originally Posted by Crpyguy

3. Listening to words before actions
My good friend and dating coach Andrea Syrtash always reminds me that men especially speak with actions before their words. Sure, he said he would call you next week, but did he? He talked about how fun it would be to go away together for the weekend, but did he make plans with you? Pay close attention to how your date acts versus what he says. The language of behavior says it all!

Again, common sense. Girls are already ahead of the game in terms of body language.

Originally Posted by Crpyguy

4. Sticking with cyber-communication
Most of us have heard that countless couples have been formed through online dating. At a wedding, I even heard a couple thank an online dating site in their vows! While I credit the Web for producing countless love matches, technology can often put too many screens up between us. We develop superficial relationships over text, instant messenging, and email. After getting comfortable with someone online, get past the initial stage of dating and lay off the gadgets a bit! Make time to hang out in person to really get to know someone -- not just the persona he presents online or on the phone.

I actually somewhat agree here, mostly because your mind draws conclusions about the other person when you're socializing with them via phone/computer rather than meeting them.

As far as these being the top 4 mistakes, I highly doubt it

[seldomseen]

The real top 4 mistakes women make

1. Being fat
2. Not having big boobs
3. Having your period
4. Saying "Fuck off loser" to the 30,000 guys that hit on you every day.
Being old
Having Kids

No offense but while I don't agree with all of the Yahoo dating expert advice article you're advice has male chauvinist written all over it and isn't that much better. The big boobs one is the worst and if someone from Yahoo dating panel had written that I'd think it was a joke.

The Yahoo article did post a few tidbits of decent advice but it left some out:

1) having a negative attitude about men and dating. The "All men suck" mentality is lame.
2) not understanding male brain. We don't have the same brain as women and communicate much differently than them. Women talk 2-3 times as much as men and yet one of their biggest complaints is we don't communicate enough.
3) being an easy catch to the guys they are interested in: People want what they can't have yet when women are interested in a guy they throw themselves at him instead of allowing a bit of intrigue and a subtle chase to take play. This is where the psychological process begins and can create a vacuum in the imagination assuming there is some interest on his part.
4) devaluing her sex appeal/allure: I don't care if a woman is older, a bit heavier or whatever she needs to use her sexuality in an alluring manner instead of saying 'fuck it if they can't accept me' This doesn't mean cake your face with makeup it means having style, fashion and a certain way of carrying yourself (sending sexual signals)

[iop3]

good post, i especially liked the last point.