How to Neg, and compliment.....

[Sinn]

Hey guys,

I've been noticing lately that most guys seem to have a lot of trouble knowing when and how to neg and when/how to compliment.

Here's a far too brief primer:

It's never too early to neg. I usually open with a neg.

You don't need a reason to do it, but do need the ability to keep your mouth moving and their attention focused on you long enough to distract them from the comment.

This means I never say " You and I are never going to get along."

And pause.....................

because when i do, the answer invariably is " You're right".

So I say you and I are never going to get along. So back to my friend his girlfriend finds these letters and pictures...

We call this throw and go in the biz.....

Remember that negs are like a tiny little pebble you throw out to keep the target's attention while we work the group.

Also the second major thing to remember is to keep a little balancer on the tip of your tongue if she does get peeved.

When she's starting to actually get pissed( I.E not flirting) like she asks you what that means...

All you need to do is compliment her to bring her back around.

Ex: You and I are not going to get along"
Her: You're right you should leave"
You: You know why? we're too similar.

That little IOI is enough to bring her back around.

The same rule regulates complimentng, only in reverse.

Every one has generically coplimented a girl and gotten the cold "...thanks."

Well you can still pull that back by simply adding a pause and an IOD.

" You've got really nice nails...ause:
Her: ...thanks......
"Are they real?"
Her: no... they were real expensive...
" Oh well they are still nice"

If she was really gushing and enthusiatstic about the compliment, I'll leave it there. But when she responds less than enthusiastically, I take away the compliment with an IOD.

S