Misogyny and the community

[Sinn]

I'm sorry to break the string of tactics and techniques that we seem to love immersing ourselves in, more than anyone I value the knowledge and information on these boards.
But I thought today would be a good time to sit down and have a little chat.
It has come to my attention, that something is terribly wrong with this community.
Misogyny and sexism, antagonistic feelings toward other men and misplaced feelings of compeititon.
The community is supposed to be a place where we can come together and help each other get what we want out of our relationship lives.
I would love to change the filter so that the words "whore" "pimp" "bitch" etc.. were filtered out. But that wouldn't be enough.
Instead I challenge everyone in the community to change the way you THINK.
Don't blame women for the way they act, they can't help it anymore than a spider can help making webs and eating flies.
Women are not bitches or whores, or any of the other words I see being used on these boards.
Misogyny does not get you the women you desire. It only drives them away.
There is a reason we don't tell women about these boards, at first glance the community could be seen as a sleazy place where we focus on tricking and deceiving.
But I don't think it is.
This is a place that promotes personal growth and allows us to become our best selves.
Everyone here loves women, you wouldn't be here if you didn't.
If you hated women would you spend all your time trying to learn how to attract them?
Why would you want to attract something you hated?
Isn't it about time that we started acting like we love women and appreciate them?
I have been guilty of all the things I have written about and worse.
But I looked at myself and realized that the problem wasn't with women, it was within me.
I had to stop blaming women for their behavior and start focusing on what I was doing wrong.
So I challenge everyone on this board or who might read this years from now. Right now make the choice to stop blaming women and take personal responsibilty for the reactions you are getting.
It's not the easy way out, but it is one of the steps on the path to mastery.
The same thinking applies to other guys as well.
There is no such thing as an AMOG or a chode.
The only reason guys get upset is when YOU (I include myself in this collective you) are doing something wrong.
Going into sets with guys in it planning to steal their girls is wrong.
And guys can smell the agenda radiating off of you.
That doesn't mean that we shouldn't do it, but I would love for the whole community to empathize with other guys.
And realize that in every interaction with a guy or girl we can leave the other person better than we met them.
Empathy is a sorely missing skill from the community.
It's time to see that we cause the reactions we are getting, and to take responsibility for them, rather than just whining about it.
Lastly, leave every woman better than you found her.
I know why we don't do this.
I came into the community a heart broken mess and when i got the oppurtunity to return the favor I did, multiple times.
And I was wrong..
I've been heart broken and I've broken hearts and while we do need to end problematic relationships, let's make sure that we do so with compassion.
There is no glory to be found from hurting a girl's feelings and even more so, there are nothing but benefits to ending relationships in a way where there are no hurt feelings.
I realize that some women do make bad choices during relationships, but even when you have been wronged, there is power in keeping the moral high ground.
Something that I have been guilty of giving up too easily.
I write this not as a criticism, but rather to hopefully guide some of you who are lost in a sea of pain and don't know where to turn.
It took me over 2 years in the community to figure out that it's not cool to treat people badly and that you can bring yourself up without pulling other people down.
So if you want to continue to be filled with anger toward women and other people in general than I suggest you stop reading this and embrace celibacy. But if you can look at yourself and take responsibilty for your actions and the results that they are bringing you, then together we can make the community something to be proud of.
S