Cant get over this girl (no oneitis post)

[Layfield]

So i dated this girl a while back (just dated, we were not a couple). From November to March. It was fun and i havent dated any girls before her. She was my first sexual experience and only the second girl i had kissed. We dated for months and she would never do anything sexual and it took me a while to push her to do anything sexual because i was happy just doing what we were doing and didnt want to mess it up.

Well finally i started grabbing her hand and putting it where i wanted it and she gave me a bj. Two weeks later she dumped me.

In the midst of all this she hooked her friend up with my brother and they are still dating now. Nevertheless it has been five months and i still am thinking about her. It is really getting on my nerves, especially because i cant pinpoint why i even like her. Shes good looking but not beautiful, shes caring, not very confident, and sometimes wasnt even that friendly. Not to mention she was the one who was attracted to me first and her liking me is the reason i asked her out in the first place (sure thing).

I was still friends with her for about a month after she dumped me. She claimed that I had become such an important part of her life she wanted me to stay that way. I appreciated this and we remained friends. She did however deny me to prom. She initially said she didnt want to go, then it turned out she already bought her ticket, but just didnt want to go with anyone, including me. After all this i got angry with her prom bs and i guess she felt bad so she ended up going with me, anyways. However, after this she seemed distant and uninterested in me as even a friend, so i just decided to bail and stopped talking to her.

I tried talking to her again a couple months ago specifically to meet up and catch up "on more than just talking". She wasnt down for this so i decided not to meet at all because i didnt want to be friends with her.

Now its two more months later and I still miss her. I have only hooked up with one chick sinse her and it was a short minute thing with a girl who wasnt feeling it. All my friends get over girls in a week to a month.

Im just wondering whats up? Whats so special about her? Why am i still thinking about her despite all she has put me through? Thank you for reading.

[Muzzi17]

Its easy. You have oneitis. Don't talk to her. Try not to think about her because it won't be productive. If you do think about her, just think of all the negative things that she has done to you. It takes time to get over it, but keep in the mind that there are 3.5 billion other girls out there. There are millions of girls that are better than her. I've had oneitis for 2 years. Its not fun lol so just don't think about her. Hang out with your friends and talk to other girls, go on dates, etc.

[Vampyro]

The
Reason
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One-Itis.

Nice to meet you. Now that we're friends, I'm going to tell you HOW to get over her.

Step One: Block her number, Block her AIM, Delete her from Myspace, BLOCK her from myspace. (Or facebook, livejournal, myyearbook, WHATEVER)

Step Two: Go out partying EVERY NIGHT. Meet girls, collect numbers, and above all, have a good time. Bring a bro so he can high five the pick-ups, or push you into the set because your approach anxiety.

Step Three: Get over her. You don't believe me, but I was depressed and suicidal for a year and a half over ONE girl. I wouldn't want her for anything other than to see if I COULD get her back. Because if I could now, I would fuck her, and then leave a CD with Thnks fr th mmrs by fallout boy.

She's not worth your whole life bro. Neither are any of the next ones. When you find that one, you will know.

Everything happens for a reason, my grandmother told my grandfather, who told my father, who told me. I fully believe it. You can be in control of what happens.

[Mrmetoo]

I'm pretty much in the same boat with you Layfield. I was seeing a girl on and off from January till June and sometimes I still think about her and I just want to break something but I've been stronger plus I have been going out and meeting other girls. It's still taking some time to get over because she was my first sexual experience also and we both fell in love with each other. So in the end just block her out and move on to the next girl.