Achilles08 keeps mentioning THIS GIRL

[Achilles08]

been dating this girl for 5 months...I knew her ex bf. he usto work with me, he broke up with her like 2+ years ago, she was heart broken, etc...


we've had NUMEROUS conflicts about her bringing him up CONSTANTLY, and I've told her numberous times I don't want to hear about him etc...she once told me she would never mention his name again, that hasn't even remotely happened...

Tonight she mentioned him in the context "you can even ask ___ ___ (ex bf)..."

then again I got a call from work...didn't answer so she did this thing where she like impersonated what they were leaving a message of...and said "hey ___ ___ (ex bf) can you come in and . . ."

I said "what the hell" then she goes "oh sorry, well u guys work at the same place..."


I didn't mention anything about it, but i'm rather pissed...honest mistake? or should I tell her I don't want to hear about this guy for the last time. I mean I've been dating her for 5 months, she's piratically my gf

[miaddict]

Originally Posted by Achilles08

little background : I've known this girl for about 5 weeks now, we've hung out about 6-7 times...she kissed me the first night I met her, we hooked up the third time.....

Originally Posted by Achilles08

I was dating this girl for about 3-4 weeks, things were progressive rather quickly, and we were seeing each other at least 4 times a week...

Originally Posted by Achilles08

I was dating this girl for 3-4 weeks, everything was going fine then she starts basically tooling me (for lack of a better word) after I was fed up with this I called her on all of it, told her I wasn't sure if I wanted to continue a relationship with her etc. .

Originally Posted by Achilles08

so basically I've been on/off with this HB for the last 3 months, at first we we're "dating" and now we are just "friends with benefits" I suppose u could call it. . .

Originally Posted by Achilles08

brief background :
been on/off with this girl for 3 months, our relationship went from "dating" to "friends with benefits" to I suppose now I'd say "just friends" considering we haven't had sex for almost a month,

Originally Posted by Achilles08

been on/off dating this girl for a while, she's a nut bar, but I like her, go figure...F'closed her, did all that good stuff...

Originally Posted by Achilles08

background: This girl pretty much pursued me, was very aggressive, things started to go real quickly at first, within the first 3-4 weeks she was already talking about me being her BF and what not,

basically we've been on/off for the past 3-4 months, in pretty much a stale mate relationship, we're somewhere between dating and friends with benefits, i'm really not sure. . .

Originally Posted by Achilles08

I've been on/off with this girl for about 4 months, dating is what she called it. We had an alright relationship I guess, I mean I liked her and she liked me, that's what was important to me...this week everything was going good, as a matter of fact I was considering asking her to be my GF.

Originally Posted by Achilles08

I've been dating this chick on and off for 5-6 months, I've posted a few threads regarding previous situations we've had in the past...

Originally Posted by Achilles08

I've been dating this girl for about 5 months, things have been going good lately,

and should I tell her to stop referring to me as her BF, since everyone time we have a conflict she goes into this rant about how I'm NOT her bf and how she shouldn't be getting mad but she does. . . etc...

Originally Posted by Achilles08

there you have it...I've posted numerous threads about this girl, so if anyone is wondering yes it's still the same girl...

Originally Posted by Achilles08

I mean I've been dating her for 5 months, she's piratically my gf

Dude, SO MANY threads just about THIS GIRL?

It just seems to me that she is causing you more TROUBLE than JOY. Why on earth are you still with her?

[Gronk]

first off, id like to see this broad...

but yeah...dude, guaranteed no matter what she's great at doing that keeps you around accepting all this trouble, theres another chick out there who's better at it or equal to said dame. at least you're at the right place to get help on finding a NEW GIRL.

[Lansing]

I was like you when I was younger. I would get attached to one girl and I would waste SOOO much time. Dude, please listen to what everyone hear is saying/will say. Forget about her completely!

[jmez]

Haha, Well I would say, stay with her. But you need to do one thing.

Learn not how to care! - Let her mention her ex-boyfriend, let her do as she wishes and just get on with it, use her for sex as such.

If she persists and it gets to a stage where youv'e had enough, say to her that you don't want to be with her anymore, simple. If she learns how not to mention his name then take her further within yourself, if she persists with his name, just push her away within. DONT SHOW IT PISSES YOU OFF!!

She should show she wants to do it without you mentioning it, plus if you don't mention it, makes you look strong (alpha) << Hate using that word.

Jmez.

[Achilles08]

LOL, nice title change


yeah I know I guess i'm kinda sucked in...??? I dunno, I guess it's one of those things you should figure out on your own...

thanks for the advice

[Achilles08]

well our 6 month dis functionary relationship is finally over, and I relized this girl is certifiably psychotic...

she was actually the one to end things, but she knew what was comming, she was see'ing someone else, and I guess she felt the need to beat me to the punch who knows...

anyways, I know she still likes me, or at least she is still sexually attracted to me, and well I like having sex with her, that's the only reason I kept things going with her for so long...so basically my question is simple...how does one go from being in a LTR to establishing her as FB (if only temporarily)

after the official END of things, we've still talked every day (it happened on sunday) for example toinght she texted me, small talk, then asked me what I was doing I said "driving about to be home" she never responded...

anyways I don't know if I should freeze her out completely, not respond to her texts/calls for a little while, keep responding and just act normal...or what...???

[Achilles08]

so things keep going...up and down, like usuall, on day we are both happy and everything is perfect the next it's awful...

to make a long story short, we got in a fight, it was bad, I ended up telling her I didn't want to end things with her but I wanted to improve our relationship... I called her the next morning cause we had plans, I decided I still wanted to go (to this superbowl party) so I went to her house, she acted like everything was normal and that was cool with me, I grab her phone which is on her bed, and look threw her out box...right after we were done talking she had text this guy, she texted him a picture of her ass basically with her shirt barely pulled down over it with the caption "sweet dreams" she walked in the room I said, "what's this" she was quite and said "I thought it was over, so I just texted him to be happy" and continued to name a laundry list of excuses...I should of left right then but I didn't

everything goes okay for the next week, and we hang out friday night, she spends on the night, then goes to work...then she says she's going out to LA with her friend brittany, so she comes over before she leaves and we have sex...I know something is up I could just sense it...the next morning she calls me blah blah blah (she's a nut job btw.) starts lying about shit, just obvious lies, nothing big but I knew she was hiding shit...later that day she comes to my hockey game, she's lying in my bed and get's a text, she flips her phone over and exits so I can't see, I say "what's about about" and we have an argument...she goes "it's over, we're done" I'm very sad, disappointed, and depressed at this point...I was the one who was supposed to end it with her.

the next day I find out when she went to LA, she hooked up with this guy the same one she send the text too...She doesn't know I know she hooked up with him.

so she basically cheated on me, she was not offically my GF, but she basically was (she would readily say "I'm basically your gf" etc) she introduced herself to everyone as my gf etc...

our contact has been minimal since the break off/up which happened on Sunday (it's now tuesday)

she texted me earlier "I got a B on my test"
I texted her "Good job HB!"
she goes "thank you...what are you doing?"
I go "just about home"
she responds like an hour later "Good Night E!"

I don't respond...


anyways, I've kept my cool for the most part, I havn't told her I knew she hooked up with that guy, she knows now that I know they hung out together (and at the time, sunday, she lied about that too)

How should I handle this situation? Should I respond to her calls/texts? Should I eliminate her from my life completely? Should I tell her I know she hooked up with that guy, and tell her how much a slut she is to her face? I have some of her clothes and a bunch of letters and shit from her, should I give it all back to her?

only thing I've really done thus far is remove her from my Top friends on myspace...

[sdnightfly]

She needs time to cool down, you both need to date other people, after a while she might either be up for it or past it.

I think for now, just keep it short and don't let her get into lengthy conversations... hopefully she has other friends she can call late at night.

I don't recommend going LTR to FB because she's going to still be "in" the releationship. There has to be an end before you can explore being FBs.

She broke up with you, so don't bother pursuing. And if/when she does call in the near future and she acts nice as if everything's ok, she's not ready.

I'd also start cutting down on daily texting. 3 times a week.

[Emi]

I know it's going to be very cliche but forget about this girl and move on. Why?

If this girl is certifiably psychotic as you said, why do you want to spend time with her? Sex should not be your answer because you can still get sex without dealing with her crap with other girls and also she has a boyfriend.

Second, you need to show some higher value to yourself. If she broke up with you, or you or she knew it was coming, either, why do you want to chase or game this girl when there are hundreds of women outside. Do not deal with this stuff and hang out with higher quality, especially mentally alright, women so your life gets better.

And yes cut the text messaging and calling shit. She will let you know if she wants sex because she has comfort with you since you were relationship with her 6 months. Good luck, let us know!