A memorial to those who have one-itis

[PeteNana15]

hears the story:

so i believe i am in the friends zone with this hb. last time i spoke to her was in May. im returning to school soon in august. I became active in the community maybe a couple months ago in late May, which means i was pretty afc with her. so is it possible to run some game on her like im not in the friends zone? (since its been months since we have spoken) so im thinking if i take pua approach at it the friends zone will disappear.

anyone agree?

any tips on which routines etc i can run on her?

[PaulB007]

Well my friends, I dont have a lot of time to explain this, so I will do by best. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and four months, we have had our ups and downs, and have broken up once before, mostly due to my lack of paying attention to her and being sensitive to her needs. I had since changed and we rarely had problems, until recently where I lost my interest over a span of time.

I treated her like crap, I didnt help her when she needed me most as much as I should have. I ignored her a lot, I looked like I was being shady with all of my text messaging and internet conversations, which I understand completely. She could take anymore of our fighting and my being shady, going back on my promises, and generally acting like I didnt give a shit about her.

Fellas I cant explain what happened, I dont have a reason for the way I acted myself. I do know that after she left me a week ago, that it became clear. I feel so bad I cannot even describe it, im in tears as I post this. She is going back home four hours away from me, actually she did last week. I have been appologizing and telling her how sorry I am, how I promise I can change and fix my problems. She doesnt buy it. She said that in time if I can fix it for myself and not her, that we probably can have another chance and see where it goes.. but that if I were to ever treat her that way again that we couldn't ever be together, because she cant go through the emotional rollercoaster again.

Guys, I have read up and done my homework, I'd say I have a decent understanding of this material and how it works for the most part. I am not being a wussy, pussy, or whatever. I am not whipped or a beggar. THIS WAS ENTIRELY MY FAULT and I see that now. I have told her, but no matter how much I tell her im sorry, try and convince her to come back, she wont. Nothing at all will make her budge on her decision. We have a lease together, she will continue to pay half of it until the landlord can sell it again. I moved back in with my parents because I cant afford the rent alone.

I lost her because of how much of a selfish, worthless asshole I've been. How ignorant, cold, mean, inconsiderate I've been. She is driving back into my town tonight and coming to my house to pick up all of her stuff. I assume with a friend. I don't know how long she is staying or why. She is going to go to school up there now and said she is going to move in with a friend and everything and get a new apartment.

THIS MIGHT BE MY LAST CHANCE TO DO SOMETHING. I am asking you guys, is there something at all that I can do with this to save it. Im worried if it cant be fixed now, that its going to be over and done with. I am truly in love with this girl, we had talked about marriage and our future, my sister even asked her before our issues that if I would ask her to marry her, would she say yes? She said that she would say yes. This girl had a deep love for me too, I know it.

Please guys, this means the world to me, I feel like a real peice of shit that I let it get to this point. I should have been a man and fixed this when I had the chance.. I am begging for any advice, anything that may be able to get her to stay here.

[dannym13]

All right guys, i have been sarging for at least a year now. I've gotten to the point where i am very confident in my ability to attract women, and i have no problem sleeping with them. With that said the one-itis struck me just last week.
I met this girl karen. She is exactly my type, the number closed was somewhat forced but i still got it, whatever. She happens to be friends with my good friend bill. So i text this girl one night to see if she wants to go out with me and bill, and i never hear back from her. a few nights later i see her and i playfully bust on her for not texting me back, and she gives me this whole story about how she thought i was someone else or what not... whatever.
The other night bill find out where karen and her friends are, we meet up with them. I start off in attraction and within 15 minutes she tells me she likes me, and we kiss a number of times. Three days later i text her to see how her weekend was or what not, and DEJA VU, she doesnt text back.
Now i would say move on, but i want this one. besides nexting her, i would appreciate any advice guys, this want i want. Thanks-Danny

[Patriarch]

Guys, I HAVE TO HAVE THIS GIRL BACK. After she broke up with me, I am now just realizing how much I need her and miss her in my life. I HAVE ONEITIS. She is still a virgin, she doesn't smoke or drink, and she is drop dead gorgeous. We had been going out for 3 months and the first month was amazing, then I turned all AFC on her and became insecure and didn't trust her. She was basically too busy for me so I wanted to spend as much time with her as I could and just wanted her all to myself. I don't know I am so confused I need this girl in my life you guys have no idea.

[Patriarch]

Me and my ex just recently broke up because I didn't trust her enough and because she was busy all the time. I wanted to get back with her again, so I asked her to hang out with me a week after the break up and she declined and her reason was "I just don't want to"

Any suggestions? Should I just drop my strong feelings on my one-itis and move on? Or should I come back and try again?

[FemmeFatale]

1) you didnt trust her, what makes you think you'll trust her the second time around?
2) You thought she was too busy then.. and shes free now?
3) She doesnt want you back.. move on.

[Patriarch]

1) I over-reacted to a guy kissing her and lost trust in her but I realized how stupid that was
2) She plays volleyball and the season is coming to an end, so yes she would be free
3)

[metalhead]

Originally Posted by Patriarch

1) I over-reacted to a guy kissing her and lost trust in her but I realized how stupid that was

I doubt you overreacted.

Did she put herself in a position to be kissed by another guy? Sometimes women like to get super close and then say "oops, it's not my fault he kissed me." Yet the fact that she put herself in that situation means she's not good gf quality.

Unless she really was innocent and came out of nowhere and kissed her.

[Patriarch]

Ah! I hate one-itis so much
it just eats away at your entire being of existence..
I just see her everyday because I have classes with her and it's hard to get over a one-itis you see every day.. I don't know what I'm looking for anymore, whether it be a way to get her back, or a way to get over her. She's a flirty girl but that's all it ever is is flirting and I became insecure.

[metalhead]

Originally Posted by Patriarch

Ah! I hate one-itis so much
it just eats away at your entire being of existence..
I just see her everyday because I have classes with her and it's hard to get over a one-itis you see every day.. I don't know what I'm looking for anymore, whether it be a way to get her back, or a way to get over her. She's a flirty girl but that's all it ever is is flirting and I became insecure.

Flirting is either a deal breaker for you or it is not. Decide that before you proceed.