Turned down a booty call because of new standards

[PuaStage]

So last night, this girl that I knew from WAY back in the day calls me out of nowhere and tells me that she's moving to my city and that she wants to hang out.

So, I had hooked up with her in HS, she was nothing special, I was young, horny etc. I had not seen her forever. So now it's been around 4 years since I last saw her, i'm 21 now, she's 20.

So later on in the night, she tells me that her roommate has left and that she is scared in her new apartment and wants me to come over and hang out with her. So, it took her a while, and she convinced me to come and said she'd even pay for my cab ride over since I didn't have access to a car. So - I agree, and go over there.

I get there and the first thing I've noticed is that she's changed dramatically. She's not really that attractive anymore, put on A LOT of weight. So, being a former fat guy myself, I shrugged it off, said no worries - don't be shallow. I remember her being a fun person from back in the day. So we get inside her apartment, start watching a movie and catch up on what we've been upto since we saw each other last. Turns out, the stuff she was telling me completely turned me off. She's been arrested a few times, once for credit card fraud as she tried to screw a bunch of people over, got arressted with drugs... etc. I wasn't bothered by it much - I guess it happens. But then just the way she talked kept bothering me. Just so prissy, so negative and constantly complaining about everything around her.

So we turn on a movie, and she keeps on saying that if I want to sleep, she has an air matress in her room that both of us could fit on. I say let's just watch a movie. So she keeps talking and I realized that after working on myself so much, learning how to meet high quality women and actually having options, that I don't really want to hook up with her at all. She made a bunch of advances but I just wasn't interested. After figuring out that I can and do attract the type of woman I'm interested in and don't need to settle, I was just completely turned off by this girl. Even though it was "an easy piece of ass." So, I grab the money owed to me and I leave.

Next day, she calls me and tells me I'm stupid because she clearly wanted to have sex. Then she basically comes out and says "Gimme some ass. I don't care what it is, as long as I get off." Well, needless to say, it was certain that it was an easy piece - but, I just don't want it.

Some people might say I'm stupid for turning down a piece of ass, but I'm glad I did it. I proved to myself that I don't need to settle and that I know that I have options in my life. And out of those options, I will choose which ever one I see fit - not whatever is handed to me.

[Muzzi17]

I totally agree with you turning her down. Its having standards and its what every man should have no matter what. Look at the situation...shes obviously insecure...not someone you want to get involved with...better check your credit buddy. Its good that you are understanding toward her weight and able to look past the physical appearance. Obviously you look into a person and not just the superficial shell each human carries on the outside. However...obesity is a problem that manifests itself through insecurities. Then again food is hella good and I eat like crazy, but do you catch my drift? I'm glad you did not have sex...its self esteem...self value...self respect...something that requires constant work and something your now good at.

[Eigerman]

Stay away from negativity. You certainly do not need such a girl in your life. Particularly if she does not meet your standards.

So live your life and date women you like.

[Spectacular]

wow man! congratulations. I feel proud of you turning her down. I wish I had the same integrity before, when I just fucked every ass that was 'handed' to me... Now I am trying to get my game together so I am the one who chooses.

well done!

[NCNick]

High Status Male move right there, my friend. Most guys won't turn down some vag unless they KNOW they can do better whenever.

I do hope you realize that now that you turned her down, she's going to keep wanting you unless you make it CRYSTAL CLEAR that she has absolutely 0% chance with you EVER.

I also like it that it was her personality that did the final turn offs for you. I am the same way - I don't care how attractive a girl is; if she doesn't have some class, she just gets uglier and uglier to me.