Sore throat after kissing a girl who smokes.

[TrueStory]

I tend to look forward down any relationship instead of chasing instant gratification.

If I am sleeping with a girl but I see no future with her, (past novelty of sex), I would set myself a deadline when relationship is going to be over. The simple plain reason for that is that you control your own emotions instead of letting yourself falling into loop of destructive and co-dependent relationship.

I am sure you guys have a lot in common, I wasn't talking down, I just referred that she's a little bit more WILD than you are

[WhiteBlood]

I appreciate the advice. But what makes her more "wild", doing more drugs? Yes, she does have me beat there. But she's told me, in numerous occasions, she's doing things with me she's never done before.

[TrueStory]

lol wild..... well wild party = drugs, sex, smoking, alcohol, experimenting, carefree, careless, reckless,

I mean she probably does a lot of things that you probably do not approve of.

[WhiteBlood]

lol.. don't approve, well I don't play daddy with her.
If you're implying I don't go out drinking and partying, we do that all the time together. I'm just not into drugs.
My main problem with her was being high all the time, which we've talked about and she agrees.

But I guess I can sort of see, where this is coming from.

[TrueStory]

Originally Posted by WhiteBlood

lol.. don't approve, well I don't play daddy with her.
If you're implying I don't go out drinking and partying, we do that all the time together. I'm just not into drugs.
My main problem with her was being high all the time, which we've talked about and she agrees.

But I guess I can sort of see, where this is coming from.

I guess I forgot to ask what are you looking for in this relationship?

I felt like I stereotyped you un-intentionally. It could have been your wording I mis-read. It might have sounded like i've implied that you're a total square. lol

Ask yourself this: she is high all the time, you told her you don't "Approve" of it.....more like it bothers you she is, but she hasn't quit.

Cigarettes are little bit harder to quit, but pot is not addictive.

What her reasons for being high around you? I used to date girls that did hardcore drugs and i stopped seeing them because, even if she quits for me, she will always be tempted. I am not looking to "build a better girlfriend" i am looking for a finished product.

I personally don't think pot is big deal, I don't smoke, but many people I know do. Unless she's really weird when high or she's doing silly shit, like driving high, don't get on her case for that as much.

[WhiteBlood]

Well, I just straight up asked her, why exactly is she always high around me, just for kicks. She made it very clear to me it wasn't me, she said because she just chooses too, and also she does it for car rides. She then said, she never thought of it like that, because she wouldn't want a guy to be high, or drunk around her all the time. So she said she'd chill on the weed. As for smoking, she said she plans to quit on her birthday, which is at the end of the summer. Which is obviously a hard thing to do.

But I see what you're saying, something to think about.

[TrueStory]

will power and moral support from friends and family. Sometimes nicotine gum...and occasionally a patch............... dude quitting smoking is like quitting doing crack. I'd imagine crack would be as addictive.

[Ice Pill]

Any addiction can be a bitch to get over.

There has to be some REAL DAM DEEP reason that makes them stop, and stop forever.

Like me, I have an addiction to the internet and video games. A real sick one. I'll start to get un social and real aggrivated and agitated if I haven't been online for hours, and haven't been able to do anything else.

What stops all that is when I hang out with my Uncle. I could hang out with him for a month straight and not give a fuck about anything:
Game(women)
internet
food
water
monkeys....you name it.

If you've told her you hate it when she smokes, and it makes you not want to be around her, but she still keeps it up. Well, unless you tweak her attraction up to some real sick kind of shit level, she's not stoping.

I dont know. Do you care really if she stops? I mean would you dump her because of it? If yes, then ignore her once she gets high again. And ignore her for a while. If she goes, she goes. If she doesnt, she doesnt.

Its like what my friend said to his girl that was gonna go party at a club without him.

"If you go to that club tonight, forget my number"