Are the looks really that important?

[TrueStory]

That was posted to calm guys' minds who think looks are everything.

I think being in shape and healthy is important, but looking like Brad Pitt or not (genetics) is not that important.
Bottom line.


I am sure if you're short, and you make it your limiting belief, it's going to affect your game. I don't know, I am 6'2'' and there are not enough tall women in Midwest.

[stradivarius]

I have found out, since I started this thread, that looks are not all that important, you just have to take care of yourself and have a good taste in fashion. I just came back from shopping with my female friend and I have bought a lot of cool stuff for my outfit. Get fashion advice from women, but you have to make the ultimate decision whether to buy it or not.... it is your frame ... as I did it .

I think that very important is to think, that you are great looking. E.g. if you are not a Brat Pitt ( I use indefinite article, because there are many guys like him) and you are self conscious of your look, it will decrease your chances drastically .... you will walk slouched, nervous and insecure ...... I found it very effective to think high of my looks ( subjectively) as well as of my qualities as a person .... it boosts confidence and also positive outlook ....

[Chince Parming]

there's a sociology book written on this (I work in a bookstore go figure ) by Gordon Patzer called "Looks and why they matter more than you've imagined" I think I'm going to take a look at it during one of my breaks

[stradivarius]

Hi guys, I am reporting an update of my pool. I have alredy 80 votes so the results are more representative ....

Question: What quality do you find the most important when chosing a boyfriend?

Answers:
1. Good Looks .... 25%
2. Inteligence .... 23 %
3. Sense of humor .. 18%
4. Confidence ... 10 %
5. Status ... 2 %
6. Style .... 3 %
7. Adventure .... 6 %
8. Fun ...... 13 %


Any comments?

[Nutz]

Originally Posted by stradivarius

Hi guys, I am reporting an update of my pool. I have alredy 80 votes so the results are more representative ....

Question: What quality do you find the most important when chosing a boyfriend?

Answers:
1. Good Looks .... 25%
2. Inteligence .... 23 %
3. Sense of humor .. 18%
4. Confidence ... 10 %
5. Status ... 2 %
6. Style .... 3 %
7. Adventure .... 6 %
8. Fun ...... 13 %


Any comments?

The poll is flawed from the start. It's well known that what women think they want and what they respond to, typically have nothing to do with each other. And when you make them think about it, then social pressure and all sorts of other aspects of their life can influence their response, sorta like how ASD kicks in.

Just look at how low status and confidence rates. Those are usually two of the top things they respond to with Fun being 3rd IMO.

[Vapor]

Strad, what women want and what they say they want often have nothing to do with each other. The poll is unsurprising and meaningless.

[Effington]

It's pretty well documented that men are significantly more visual than women, in other words, we care a lot more about looks. They do matter, but not NEARLY as much as you think.

Since looks are so important to us, it makes sense that we think it's the same for them, but that is not the case.

[The Therapist]

Originally Posted by Vapor

Strad, what women want and what they say they want often have nothing to do with each other. The poll is unsurprising and meaningless.

Can't emphasize this enough.....one of my pivots was just bitching about wanting to date a "nice" guy........one took her out a week or so ago......she gets home and tells me how bad it sucked. He was too nice.

It irritated her that he asked her twice where she would like to eat.

I happen to know the guy a little, he's incredibly nice. AFC though.

She compared it to going out with me and my wing. My wing is cocky funny almost to a fault. I'm laid back, cool aloof, confident, with a touch of cocky arrogance.....that I'm able to make girls laugh with. I.e., she says she want's these things that Cosmo and other mags and society tells her that she wants, but she really wants a guy like me or my wing who's fun, and for the most part doesn't give a shit about how we are perceived by others.

Frankly 60% of game is making girls laugh whether they know it or not. Only weird dope head hippie type chicks don't like laughing.....with chicks like that, just play them some Nirvana, and write them a poem about death.

[NumbaOneDesi]

TrueStory killed it.

[Sinn]

Looks do matter, but bad looks will not stop you from getting a hot girl.

But to say being good looking doesn't help is retarded.

That's why you want to make sure you maximize your looks through fashion, working out, and body language.

S